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So I really need some advice. I have been on 4 dates with a woman that has always been nice and I have known for about a month before asking her out.
Everything between us has been great and we have so far had some fun dates, however on our last one we were at her place and at one point she dropped something and picked it up and not to sound like I was intentionally looking but as she picked it up the back of her jeans slipped down a bit (wearing low rise type jeans) and saw a swastika tattoo very low on her back. I was quite shocked, she has never said anything racist or the like.
Looking back the only thing in retrospect that seemed a little odd was during our last date we started talking about politics and got on the subject of our president and such (and not to stereotype but she is a big fan of trump) and I made mention that Israel will have some problem with trump and she asked if I had ever dated a Jewish woman. I said no and didn't really think much of it.
I never said anything to her when I saw it, and she is 30 so perhaps I am just being naive but I think it's possible she could have gotten it when she was very young and even if she did have racist beliefs she doesn't now but hasn't gotten it removed yet.
Should I confront her in a nice way next time we get together or just assume the worse and just immediately end it?
If she wants to tell you about it she will otherwise it is her body and her choice to tattoo what she wants on it.
It is also your decision alone in regards to ending things or not.
I never said anything to her when I saw it, and she is 30 so perhaps I am just being naive but I think it's possible she could have gotten it when she was very young and even if she did have racist beliefs she doesn't now but hasn't gotten it removed yet.
Should I confront her in a nice way next time we get together or just assume the worse and just immediately end it?
How much could her morals and ethics have changed from the time she was legally able to get a tattoo and her now being just 30? And that's the extreme scenario...she may have gotten the tattoo 6 month ago for all you know.
Anyway, you say "the next time we get together". The thought of "next time" would have never crossed my mind.
So yeah, if that's acceptable to you, then ask all the questions you want, I guess. Do you worry about offending her?
I know how it sounds but it is the truth. I mean she has always been very sweet and lovely and has been great to be around, so this came as a shock. And the truth is one can change a lot in their 20s so it's not that implausible her views could change.
I know how it sounds but it is the truth. I mean she has always been very sweet and lovely and has been great to be around, so this came as a shock. And the truth is one can change a lot in their 20s so it's not that implausible her views could change.
if her views changed that much she would have the tat removed. I couldn't date someone with a tat like that.
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