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The fact that your "friends" don't call you and you have to initiate always means to me that something in your personality is off.
And your problems have been discussed here forever and a day.
But I think adding to all of that is maybe that you do not NEED a man. You are too independent. Which is great - but also a problem in the dating world.
You don't need anybody to rescue you. You don't need a man to fix stuff. You are not girly and weak and make him think he is the greatest and THE MAN. Most men need this (let's be honest for a second).
I think, you are too strong. Additional to that you give too little (love/sex/attention), have too much baggage (kids/exes floating around/been known/overall weird history) are too demanding (house chores/yard chores) and not feminine enough (cooking/girly/weaker as him/too much one of the boys). If one of these problems exist, it is okay - but you have ALL of them.
I think I have come to the conclusion that I am single because I am self centered, not career driven and kind of boring with my interests. Plus I am expensive, needy and high maintenance, except in appearance. I want to live my life in pjs and no makeup.
You are shopping for a husband like you're shopping for a used car.
In all your prior threads, looking for a husband, you want one for what they can do for you. You've been very upfront about that. What they can do for you. Its not an appealing trait.
I am happy with who I am. I love my kids, pets. I am living in my dream house. Driving the exact car I wanted.
What I am missing is the husband and team member to live my life with. That is the only thing missing.
I love my hobbies. I just wish I had more good friends to share them with. But overall, I am a happy person. I would like to find someone that can love and want me because I am me.
That's not what you said in your posts about being terribly lonely when not in a relationship. Happy, contented people aren't driven to partner up with unsuitable people, then keep them around for years in spite of obvious incompatibilities.
I can't get over the fact that you won't consider dating a man with children, yet expect a childless man to be thrilled to date a mother of two? I was happy I met someone with a child, we do a lot of stuff as a family of 4, but we also get plenty of adult only time as well. Only another parent can truly appreciate and understand the demands and time commitments of raising children.
ONCE AGAIN.... your post is nothing but "I" statements. What this relationship is going to do for YOU. That old saying about there being no "I" in "team...." You might want to meditate on how that translates for relationships for a bit.
Question: what are you going to bring to the relationship? Aside from the "dream house" and the "exact car you wanted," because those are just things. What are you going to do for the man?
It's no use. OP has heard all of this before and still refuses to think she has any issues. All you will get is arguments from her.
So, again, I will ask her....
Why will you not ever take ANY of the advice that is offered to you? Why????
I polled some exes this morning and the consensus is that I am uncompromising and one way. What type of guy is good with this trait?
We've all told you that too.
What kind of guy?
A doormat, someone with no backbone, and someone who is looking for a Mom.
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It's no use. OP has heard all of this before and still refuses to think she has any issues. All you will get is arguments from her.
So, again, I will ask her....
Why will you not ever take ANY of the advice that is offered to you? Why????
Oh yeah....
OP you're the one that lives in the small town where ALL the blokes are drunks/junkies/married/criminals/lunatics etc ..... Aren't you? Hence your problems in finding a bloke?
I can't get over the fact that you won't consider dating a man with children, yet expect a childless man to be thrilled to date a mother of two? I was happy I met someone with a child, we do a lot of stuff as a family of 4, but we also get plenty of adult only time as well. Only another parent can truly appreciate and understand the demands and time commitments of raising children.
The op wants a companion to sooth her loneliness and do everything for her she may not want to do herself, she isn't interested in an actual mutually beneficial relationship.
Any question of personal responsibility is always countered by her unwillingness to change anything in herself and her responsibilities towards her children.
It just goes round and round in circles because the OP doesn't want to change anything to help herself, she wants to change others so they can better help her.
Which needless to say, nobody here can do for her.
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