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OP, I was in a similar situation a few months ago. Some of the posters here know it well (the 60-y.o. widow); you were not in a relationship, you were FWB, and no more. She doesn't want you, but she doesn't want anyone else to have you. Do what I did - cut ties with her, walk away and don't look back! She will probably continue to contact you, but you just need to move on.
I've always had better chemistry with women older than me than younger, I think it's due to the fact my mother had me when she was very young (19). The first time I did it with a woman about 15 years my senior. Even now, my wife is 6 years older than me. My first wife was 7 and a half years younger, but it was a fiasco. So if you get along fine with that older woman, go for it! maybe they have more "baggage" but they have more experience of life and in my experience, more tolerant than younger women and girls who know nothing of life save "I want to have a baby". I think n the future they will be more couples where the wife is a "cougar"...
OP, I was in a similar situation a few months ago. Some of the posters here know it well (the 60-y.o. widow); you were not in a relationship, you were FWB, and no more. She doesn't want you, but she doesn't want anyone else to have you. Do what I did - cut ties with her, walk away and don't look back! She will probably continue to contact you, but you just need to move on.
Thank you for your advice! Yes, I know it wasn't a relationship, but she made it feel like one. FWB's don't hold each other in their arms and have a soft ambient lamp connected to a headboard left on because she wants to, "gaze into my gorgeous dark eyes and savor the moment." I wanted a label, or at least boundaries, and she didn't She said we had too much history and were too custom to have that stuff.
Lately, I have been the one to text, although it's once a week and I just say hi. However, I do see what you are saying. She told me something I wrote on social media was about her because she won't hangout with me, when it was clearly about women from my past who turned me down who suddenly have an interest me now that I have lost a lot of weight. We fought for 3 days straight over that. A week later I texted her and we talked like the fight never happened.
That's one thing that I find odd. We fight, then we talk like the fight never happened. She tells me the sexual part has been over and to let it go and there's no need to stay in touch, yet she responds to me when I text. Sometimes she doesn't but if I text her a few days later she will. Or she will get back and apologize for not replying.
Thank you for your advice! Yes, I know it wasn't a relationship, but she made it feel like one. FWB's don't hold each other in their arms and have a soft ambient lamp connected to a headboard left on because she wants to, "gaze into my gorgeous dark eyes and savor the moment."
Sure they do. That's life in post-coital la-la land and it doesn't matter if you are friends or in a committed relationship.
If she rolled over and ignored you, I doubt that would feel good.
Sure they do. That's life in post-coital la-la land and it doesn't matter if you are friends or in a committed relationship.
If she rolled over and ignored you, I doubt that would feel good.
Yeah, I see your point. I just find it odd how she says the sexual part of the relationship is over, there isn't a need to keep in touch, yet she still has my number. If I text her she replies back.
I guess she's just lying and is trying to turn me into a convenience when she needs it.
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