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Yes. If our magnets aren't trying to draw our bodies together, it's a friendship.
So are your male friends all in the "friend zone" because of lack of physical attraction? Have you ever had a male friend you thought wasn't a bad looking guy but you're just not compatible in other ways?
And have you ever date somebody you thought was not ugly but average looking but attraction grew? Or do you have to find them hot right away?
I have and have had many male friends that were good looking and obviously there was some compatibility in order to enjoy each other as friends.
Just didn't have the type of attraction that led to wanting to be physical. Would some of them gone in that direction? Sure, but they kept things within bounds.
Ugly? Absolutely the wrong thing to base things on....as has been repeated here ad nauseam.
So are your male friends all in the "friend zone" because of lack of physical attraction? Have you ever had a male friend you thought wasn't a bad looking guy but you're just not compatible in other ways?
And have you ever date somebody you thought was not ugly but average looking but attraction grew? Or do you have to find them hot right away?
Any woman who says no to this hasn't dated much or is very shallow or both. Of course! In fact men are much more visually oriented. If you look at their lists, beauty is always at that top whereas women list other qualities as being more important.
So are your male friends all in the "friend zone" because of lack of physical attraction? Have you ever had a male friend you thought wasn't a bad looking guy but you're just not compatible in other ways?
And have you ever date somebody you thought was not ugly but average looking but attraction grew? Or do you have to find them hot right away?
Yep. But it wasn't so much that attraction "grew" overtime, because I was attracted to them from the start. "Hot" wasn't on my list of must-haves.
I'm married, but I can tell you what is important to me.
- Looks/attraction first, because without that, there is no future.
- Great sense of humor.
- Hard working and very strong. Someone who is skilled, very handy, knowledgeable, jack of all trades, doesn't mind getting hands dirty. Construction, foreman, farming (something along those lines).
- A gentleman. Well mannered. Loving.
- Patient.
- Must love football and baseball.
- Not a drinker, no drugs.
- Same faith.
Yep. But it wasn't so much that attraction "grew" overtime, because I was attracted to them from the start. "Hot" wasn't on my list of must-haves.
And I wonder, too, how much of the delay can be that you (general you) find someone attractive and have chemistry right off, but they're maybe not what you think of as "your type" so you have to give yourself a little time to realize what's happening.
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And I wonder, too, how much of it can be that you (general you) find someone attractive and have chemistry right off, but they're maybe not what what you think of as "your type" so you have to give yourself a little time to realize what's happening.
LOL. I totally tried to fool myself for an entire year in this way. One Saturday we had to be at work and I thought, 'why does his butt look so much better in jeans than suits?' Wait, why am I looking at his butt?
So are your male friends all in the "friend zone" because of lack of physical attraction? Have you ever had a male friend you thought wasn't a bad looking guy but you're just not compatible in other ways?
Yes. One in particular, on paper we should have been compatible; he was nice looking, we got along great, and he was exactly my "type"... a match of adjoining tricorders it should have been... the attraction just wasn't there on my end.
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And have you ever date somebody you thought was not ugly but average looking but attraction grew? Or do you have to find them hot right away?
Hotness has nothing to do with it. I've dated people that wouldn't be considered conventionally handsome, but the attraction was intense. Conversely, there have been some very attractive people who I would never have considered dating.
Yes. One in particular, on paper we should have been compatible; he was nice looking, we got along great, and he was exactly my "type"... a match of adjoining tricorders it should have been... the attraction just wasn't there on my end.
Hotness has nothing to do with it. I've dated people that wouldn't be considered conventionally handsome, but the attraction was intense. Conversely, there have been some very attractive people who I would never have considered dating.
It works for us men too. I've said before - attractiveness has little to do with beauty.
A woman who who exudes sexuality is very attractive!
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