He keeps losing his erection. (best, broke up, physical, girlfriend)
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It's mainly about conditioning and how experiences shape people. It's a mixture of environmental and personal factors. Like you say, it may sadden because you see it as being vigilant and fearful. While to them they see as being smart and prudent, but they're happy/satisfied with living by that. Some people are just not comfortable with that type of attention. I just decide what mindsets I'm compatible/not compatible with and keep it pushing.
Different strokes for different folks. I just thought I'd offer a different take on the situation.
Quite right.
And how boring would the world be if we all thought exactly alike?
Though along the lines of what you're saying right now, I did find something odd once...
I was at 18, friends with the man who would later be my husband and now my ex, AND his second wife (they were still married then, but it was falling apart somewhat messily.) And we were all out at a diner late one night and she was telling me how well endowed he was. At the time I was kinda weirded out, because he'd come onto me, I'd found out he was married, and was trying to avoid him because hey...married dude, no way, right?! And then she says that? What? It turns out she was so incredibly tired of his crap that she was all too happy to have a good reason to end their marriage and a means to hand him off to someone else. I was to, years later, become all too well acquainted with that feeling, as I often wished he'd just meet someone else and go away without a fuss. lol...
I'm dating a 39 year old man who keeps losing his erection during sex. I know this is a sensitive subject for men so I'm wondering if I should express my concern? How would I go about it? Can I just be straightforward and tell him to invest in some Viagra?
Sex is important to me, so if I'm not satisfied I don't see the point in continuing to see him. Has anyone else dealt with this?
There are a lot of reasons for this
1) the guy has low testosterone. Does he exercise, eat right, etc. Is he overweight, smoke, drink excessively, etc..
All of this will impact one's ability to get an erection.
2) are you in good shape, not overweight, etc.? Do you act/dress, etc in a way that is exciting to him?
3) are you sick of each other..
sometimes people need space away from each other. Give it a week or two, and the two are practically raping each other voluntarily.
For me, how fit I see myself or not affects my sex drive. If I'm looking good, working out regularly, etc.. feel good about how I look, my sex drive increases. Can go a couple times without problems in my mid 30s.
Here it is guys! This is what women talk about with their close girlfriends, only they make it known WHO and mention names! So the next time their friends see you, your most private business has already been exposed and laughed at by these women.
In my own case, I did lose my erection once a couple years ago. In the middle of doing the deed something in my lower back felt like it popped, accompanied by pain going down the back of my leg. And I couldn't continue.
I took a few Aleve and spend some time in the jacuzzi and I felt like new in about 5 days.
She wasn't laughing at these guys at all.
And BTW, you're right here talking about this stuff too.
We are all anonymously talking about this stuff. As far as sharing all this IRL? Maybe with a really really close family member or best friend. Like guys do (my husband and his brother talked about some pretty explicit issues with my BIL's ex, for example).
I can't remember ever sitting down in a public place with a group of casual friends to loudly talk about how my boyfriend couldn't get it up or something. This isn't Sex in the City, this is real life. There are boors everywhere, certainly, but I wouldn't say yelling about someone's ED randomly to big groups is a normal thing for women. I'm a woman, BTW. We talk "more" about certain issues overall and can get more explicit but we're not renting out billboards.
I'm dating a 39 year old man who keeps losing his erection during sex. I know this is a sensitive subject for men so I'm wondering if I should express my concern? How would I go about it? Can I just be straightforward and tell him to invest in some Viagra?
Sex is important to me, so if I'm not satisfied I don't see the point in continuing to see him. Has anyone else dealt with this?
Could it be something about you? Some women who are obese and otherwise disgusting see no problems with themselves. Some men are not turned on by the prospect of rolling over on top of a mountain of meat.
Well the last two times it happened he sort of blamed it on me. I said I was about to orgasm and then he said he lost his momentum because I said that. The other time he said it was because I told him I wanted him to orgasm and so he felt thrown off track. Essentially, he blamed it on me which is totally lame. I've noticed he likes to play the victim so I don't know if bringing up the issue will even get us anywhere.
When it happens he just masturbates until he can get it going again but that sort of kills the mood for me.
Ugh, this is why I prefer younger guys.
Because it's all about your needs and wants, of course!
We don't know this. It can't, always, in fact we had a thread I think last month (IIRC) where oral was something the dude couldn't do and nobody could figure it out...OP, have you tried this?
I personally feel the bigger issue is this guy immediately trying to shame the OP just for acting normal in bed. I don't know that I'd be entirely enthused to perform oral on a guy who did that to me. That's just me, though.
But yeah, "you made me soft by saying something sexy in bed" (more or less) would not exactly make me feel expansive and overly-eager to just go ahead and please any way the Master decreed I should.
Just nope...not if I were treated the way the OP says this guy is treating her.
Now. If he had said "Look, could we try something else..." with a little smile, and kinda glanced down...instead of basically "this is your fault" and stopping the whole game, I'd almost certainly be down for it (oh yar har...sorry).
Dude needs to learn to communicate. He also needs to learn personal responsibility.
And maybe you need to learn to not be so judgmental and even angry towards an unknown guy. Nobody here knows these people; nobody here knows the actual personal/social dynamic which exists between these two people, yet many on here are playing armchair psychologist and diagnosing this guy with a variety of ailments. All these Dr. Laura's and Dear Abby's appearing out of the woodwork to shame, diagnose, and berate this guy! LOL..And of course, the usual gender battle erupts whenever there is a male-female issue or problem being discussed. Gotta stick with your team and try to outdo or bash the other side.
That which one criticizes in others, is in fact that which one hates about oneself, yet is unwilling to confront.
Of course if you turn the thread into a gender bash fest, which it wasn't before, then it'll accomplish the stated desire of some to get the thread closed. Which makes perfect sense since the OP's situation is now obsolete.
Could it be something about you? Some women who are obese and otherwise disgusting see no problems with themselves. Some men are not turned on by the prospect of rolling over on top of a mountain of meat.
You chime in on a 2 month old (long time to keep an erection, seriously) 300 comment thread with this? Her being unattractive to him, with the key word being him and his choosing to have sex with her several times, seems unlikely, don't you think?
Dude had issues beyond anything sexual and they're no longer a couple. Since we don't know or interact with him and the OP is now with a guy delivering the goods, who just happens to be really old at like 42 or something, which kind of makes me happy, truth be told, let's do call this a happy ending
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And how boring would the world be if we all thought exactly alike? 
