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He isn't a post office dude. He runs it. If you look at the USPS, it is setup like a corporation. Think of him as in middle management. The benefits were beneficial to her medical condition... not to mention a path to legal status. They knew each other but not intimately nor romantically. Certainly not a wealthy guy... he had a home.. single... no kids.. both middle aged.
But I agree with you.... anything sex, money, security are all things of value. Which is exactly my point. When we think of cases like this, it doesn't necessarily mean only the wealthy.
Also keep in mind that it is assumed we are talking about cases in which things of value were the primary foundation of the marriage rather than love and companionship. I also don't think it in of itself is wrong. Marriage has been used for every reason on the sun outside of love/companionship... money, power, influence, uniting bloodlines, uniting kingdoms, to stop wars, as a political leverage etc. People make their own choices. If money is that important in your life, you might as well marry for wealth.
So how is it you know this middle management fellow was married for his money, with the wife not loving him? Did she tell you so?
A few. Considering the fact that a very small percentage of U.S. men (or, anybody, really), comparatively, is wealthy; then among those wealthy, those guys get to "pick" a trophy, the best-looking of the best-looking.
I’ve had old men hitting on me with the promise of social security checks. (there used to be a restaurant in the neighboring next to mine that attracted these men. It happened to all my friends too.)
I’ve had old men hitting on me with the promise of social security checks. (there used to be a restaurant in the neighboring next to mine that attracted these men. It happened to all my friends too.)
So how is it you know this middle management fellow was married for his money, with the wife not loving him? Did she tell you so?
I knew her and the circles she moved through. When she was healthy we kinda hit it off (not in that way). She remembered me specifically because she thought an Asian dude, raised American, but would greet her in Russian was a novelty. I found her home life very interesting... she is the only Tatar I've ever met. Unusually quiet she opened up to me back then. Thus when we crossed paths after a few years had passed, we were quite surprised and she told me what had happened. I also know the guy in passing. I think he genuinely cares for her but its not romantic.. middle aged.. not really social. She really needed status, health benefits, and some help financially until she recovers. I don't think money was the primary reason but as I said... it happens at all income levels..
I don't know if she fully recovered... she stopped replying to texts just like before. Ghosting of sorts.. not uncommon for me... and I don't take it personally under these circumstances.
I have had it suggested to me. However, I'm not willing to pretend to be interested in someone just to get food. I don't have the energy for it. Plus I'd feel bad.
I don't understand how it's even very valuable. Unless it's an upscale place, I guess. Dining out is half about enjoying the outing with whoever. I guess someone who has a bit of grifter in them could trade poor company for a great steak, or some other expensive meal they can't afford on their own.
Most successful men - the presumed targets - aren't poor company, because it's increasingly hard to do well in this world without a popular personality.
I could certainly do that every night of the week, but, seriously that is way to much work for a dinner. I will scrounge up $2 and eat tuna and watch Netflix if I'm that hungry and hold my dog.
I don’t think women intentionally do this, it just happens to be an added benefit of being a single woman on the dating market.
Women rarely choose where they want to eat anyway. As a single men, you’re going to pay for a crapload of free dinners and other worthless things for women, just accept it.
And when you get married, you’ll be required to buy them even more crap. Make no mistake, women have dumped/divorced men who they feel aren’t treating them like a princess.
I can say I used OLD for free entertainment, not necessarily anyone paying for my dinner, whether they did or not wasn't my intention.
I'd rather explore a new restaurant, attraction, area, etc., with someone of my choosing. I liked going out with someone I found attractive physically or personality-wise who may provide an interesting experience.
I suppose if the meeting didn't turn out how they wanted, and they paid for anything, they could stretch that action in their head into one of me using them, but what happens if I'm the one who paid and it didn't lead anywhere? Did I ever look at them as using me for a free dinner? No. Not one time. I'm not insecure in that way that would make me feel I'm only good for my money. I have a lot more to offer.
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