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Exactly. And their degrees too. The date most times is like a job interview. I’m finishing a Masters in HR Management this summer. For the love of God, I really don’t find career talk interesting since I already have to do it so much. Hell, I want to know who had the better music during the 90s, East or West Coast? Flats or wings? What is the most beautiful sight you’ve ever seen? Don’t talk about your resume!
Yeah, that is the worst when your date goes on and on about their degrees and job. I hate when people prattle on about their jobs. I even dislike being asked about my own job. I work in an corporate office. There is nothing remotely interesting about anything corporate.
I guess it depends on the circumstances. When I was online dating, most of the men were not local. For that reason, I liked to have a bit more of a sense of how we'd get on face to face before meeting. A fifteen minute drive for lunch or coffee is one thing. A drive of a couple of hours or more is another. That's a good deal more effort to expend for someone you've only spoken to for a few minutes. Then again, I don't mind chatting online, even if it doesn't lead anywhere but to friendship. To each their own.
I rarely chatted with people further than 15 miles away. We have a lot of traffic so that is about as far as you want to go logistically.
In theory I do not mind chatting online (obviously I am here). In practice I find it pretty difficult to get most people to engage in meaningful conversation via OLD. Maybe I am not picking properly. So in person is a better way to vet things for me. It also feels like fewer people are interested in just having a good time (via conversation) if there isn’t romantic chemistry. I like to meet new people, make new acquaintances and chat up strangers.
See? This is why you don't waste money on the first date. Find a free activity to find out if she's even worth your time. Don't just think you're obligated to woo someone. Never put in more effort than you're receiving unless you somehow like one-sided relationships.
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Yeah, that is the worst when your date goes on and on about their degrees and job. I hate when people prattle on about their jobs. I even dislike being asked about my own job. I work in an corporate office. There is nothing remotely interesting about anything corporate.
Could be just nerves, and people moving to the familiar to calm them. I know I do it, I wish I didn't but that's the reason why; it's not to humble brag....
I still don't get why it's mostly guys who pay for dates. I would never pay for someone on the first date, or expect someone to pay for me. You pay for your meal, I pay for mine. I pay for yours when I get to know you. And screw that kissing/sex on the first/second date. I don't kiss strangers! In my case I waited until the 7th date to get physical with who I am with.
I still don't get why it's mostly guys who pay for dates. I would never pay for someone on the first date, or expect someone to pay for me. You pay for your meal, I pay for mine. I pay for yours when I get to know you. And screw that kissing/sex on the first/second date. I don't kiss strangers! In my case I waited until the 7th date to get physical with who I am with.
If many people went this route there'd be less disappointed people when it doesn't work out.
Rejection is just a part of the dating process. I am never asked on a second date after a first date with a guy. I don't get angry about it, I just move on.
We are not getting the full story. Obviously she ghosted on him for a reason. Either he behaved in a way that made her uncomfortable or she just didn't feel any chemistry with him. Even had she not ghosted and told him she wasn't interested, he still would have sent her an invoice for that date. I am sure of that.
And while men complain about how much money on dinner dates, women spend WAY more to look good for men on those dates. We spend money getting our hair done, getting our nails done, getting new shoes or outfits and that costs hundreds of dollars. Women care about our appearance when trying to attract a mate and we invest a lot of money in it.
I have spent lots of money to look good for a guy on a first date only to never be called again. Should I send men invoices who ghost me for my clothes, hair and nails? It works both days. If men shouldn't spend money, then women shouldn't do anything to look good either. Both cost money. Most dates people go on will not result in anything and you have to go through a lot of people before meeting someone. Everyone you like will not like you back.
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Yeah, that is the worst when your date goes on and on about their degrees and job. I hate when people prattle on about their jobs. I even dislike being asked about my own job. I work in an corporate office. There is nothing remotely interesting about anything corporate.
