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A friend's girlfriend wants to take overseas trips without him.
They initially dated for a month and a half after knowing each other for almost a year.
Afterwards, they went on a overseas trip for a week with one of her friends (the original plan was for her and 2 female friends to go, but one of them dropped out creating an available spot). The trip was planned before they starting dating. The girlfriend's friend (let's call her Sally) felt like a third wheel.
Then, they spent a year in a LTR due to a job change on her part. The plan was that he was going to move to where she lived in a year. when his own work contract was completed. They saw each other for 2 weeks every 3 months.
A week before he was set to move there, she told him that she wanted to go on occasional overseas trips without him with her girlfriends starting with a trip with Sally during the Christmas holiday for about a week and a half though no plans are set in stone yet. She told him that she needed some "girl time" on occasion without him. He felt excluded and is not Ok with the idea of not being able to go along on these occasional "girl trips" she wants to go on. He is thinking of breaking up with her over it. He has already shipped some of his belongings to her apartment in this new city. He can't stay in the city where he is at because his work contract will be completed in less than a week.
My friend and his girlfriend have an upcoming cruise planned. He is thinking of cancelling his portion of the reservation for which he would 50% of his payment refunded due to how close it is to the date. In a week, he would get 25% refunded. If he waits 2 weeks, we would not get anything refunded.
What do you think about his situation and what do you think he should do?
A friend's girlfriend wants to take overseas trips without him.
They initially dated for a month and a half after knowing each other for almost a year.
Afterwards, they went on a overseas trip for a week with one of her friends (the original plan was for her and 2 female friends to go, but one of them dropped out creating an available spot). The trip was planned before they starting dating. The girlfriend's friend (let's call her Sally) felt like a third wheel.
Then, they spent a year in a LTR due to a job change on her part. The plan was that he was going to move to where she lived in a year. when his own work contract was completed. They saw each other for 2 weeks every 3 months.
A week before he was set to move there, she told him that she wanted to go on occasional overseas trips without him with her girlfriends starting with a trip with Sally during the Christmas holiday for about a week and a half though no plans are set in stone yet. She told him that she needed some "girl time" on occasion without him. He felt excluded and is not Ok with the idea of not being able to go along on these occasional "girl trips" she wants to go on. He is thinking of breaking up with her over it. He has already shipped some of his belongings to her apartment in this new city. He can't stay in the city where he is at because his work contract will be completed in less than a week.
My friend and his girlfriend have an upcoming cruise planned. He is thinking of cancelling his portion of the reservation for which he would 50% of his payment refunded due to how close it is to the date. In a week, he would get 25% refunded. If he waits 2 weeks, we would not get anything refunded.
What do you think about his situation and what do you think he should do?
It's his decision....but it seems immature to me. I went on an overseas trip without my then husband and he was ok with it...well, he said 2 weeks was too long but still, no complaints.
Sounds like a whiney baby to me. If he's seriously thinking of breaking up with her because she wants to take a trip with some friends, then he needs to do her a big favor and break up with her. Actually, she should just break up with him and tell him to grow up.
When your friend tags along it changes the dynamic between his girlfriend and the other women in the group: thus, the “third wheel effect.” He needs to get over it and stop complaining.
Sounds like they’re not a good match. He has the wrong attitude.
Sounds like a whiney baby to me. If he's seriously thinking of breaking up with her because she wants to take a trip with some friends, then he needs to do her a big favor and break up with her. Actually, she should just break up with him and tell him to grow up.
A friend's girlfriend wants to take overseas trips without him.
They initially dated for a month and a half after knowing each other for almost a year.
Afterwards, they went on a overseas trip for a week with one of her friends (the original plan was for her and 2 female friends to go, but one of them dropped out creating an available spot). The trip was planned before they starting dating. The girlfriend's friend (let's call her Sally) felt like a third wheel.
Then, they spent a year in a LTR due to a job change on her part. The plan was that he was going to move to where she lived in a year. when his own work contract was completed. They saw each other for 2 weeks every 3 months.
A week before he was set to move there, she told him that she wanted to go on occasional overseas trips without him with her girlfriends starting with a trip with Sally during the Christmas holiday for about a week and a half though no plans are set in stone yet. She told him that she needed some "girl time" on occasion without him. He felt excluded and is not Ok with the idea of not being able to go along on these occasional "girl trips" she wants to go on. He is thinking of breaking up with her over it. He has already shipped some of his belongings to her apartment in this new city. He can't stay in the city where he is at because his work contract will be completed in less than a week.
My friend and his girlfriend have an upcoming cruise planned. He is thinking of cancelling his portion of the reservation for which he would 50% of his payment refunded due to how close it is to the date. In a week, he would get 25% refunded. If he waits 2 weeks, we would not get anything refunded.
What do you think about his situation and what do you think he should do?
I don't know that there is enough relevant information here to form a reasonable opinion, either way. Neither of the two of them look good, as a result. He looks controlling; she looks like she is pulling away, at best.
Honestly, this looks like the makings of a very bad idea (him moving in with her). The first priority he should have is making sure he has his life in order (where he is going to work and live). As they have been apart as much as they have, the better idea would be for him to find a place of his own and THEN see if there is anything between the two of them.
Why can't "girl time" be something they can do locally?
Seriously?
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