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You make no sense. If you're not interested in dating the women you describe they should have no relevance to your scientific formula for getting a date.
Here, watch: I don't eat offal. I will never buy or eat offal. Ergo - I don't need to know where to buy offal, how much it costs, or how it's packaged.
The more I read this thread the more it sounds like everyone is trying to explain the concept of love to a robot.
The more I read this thread the more it sounds like everyone is trying to explain the concept of love to a robot.
The quirks and idiosyncrasies and illogical behavior that human beings are capable of make it tough to take a paint by the numbers approach to dealing with affairs of the heart.
Well, yes. Everyone adjusts their expectations as they get older, you have to or you'll be stuck in the past holding out hope that somehow the world will change on your account.
What I've seen a lot of in my admittedly new foray into OLD, is that there's an unusually high number of 35-45 year old people who are refusing to adjust their expectations according to their marketability. Basically, they're in denial. You have 40 year old women who still think Prince Charming is going to come scoop her up and off to his castle. Then you have the ones who simply won't make room for a new partner because they're not willing to change anything about their lifestyle.
Inevitably these people will be forced to adjust their standards if they don't want to spend the rest of their lives alone.
You still don't understand what I was trying to communicate.
I did not adjust my expectations! My feelings naturally adjusted themselves as I aged. I have the same expectations as I always did. Women several years younger than I am now look just as good as 20 year old women looked to me at 27. If you're 27 and look at a 55 year old woman you will probably think she looks old, but if you're 65 looking at the same 55 year old you think she's a cute babe!
I think you and I are just going to have to accept that young people (35-45) probably have quite a different OLD experience than senior citizens. We may be on the same site but we are dating different populations, differing by a significant number of years. (20-25 years)
You still don't understand what I was trying to communicate.
I did not adjust my expectations! My feelings naturally adjusted themselves as I aged. I have the same expectations as I always did. Women several years younger than I am now look just as good as 20 year old women looked to me at 27. If you're 27 and look at a 55 year old woman you will probably think she looks old, but if you're 65 looking at the same 55 year old you think she's a cute babe!
I think you and I are just going to have to accept that young people (35-45) probably have quite a different OLD experience than senior citizens. We may be on the same site but we are dating different populations, differing by a significant number of years. (20-25 years)
More likely you came to accept the fact that you can no longer attract attractive 20 year old women anymore. So you make do with those older women because sex, up to a point, with someone who ain't all that pretty and fit and firm, is better than no sex at all.
I know a guy just like that. He was rather handsome when he was 15-25, but then he lost his hair, got some extra pounds on him, and his facial skin took a nosedive because of all those years under the sun, and without much care to boot. Now he tells me the women he can attract are as attractive to him as the women he used to [bleep] when he was 15-25, but then I find him staring wishfully at the young women at the bar hahaha
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Hey, RJ, I'm curious dude, do you gather data into a spreadsheet on how many days that various women in your area are on OLD sites so as to assess how their unrealistic expectations are causing them to continue being alone, so that you can then explain to them in messages where on the curve they are and provide citations to inform them about how their own sexuality works according to Kinsey and other studies, and tell them the relevant points of masculine attractiveness that you display, what parts of their brains are supposed to be stimulated by that, and tell them that they are stupid and wrong if they don't go on a date with you (which should not need to be "fun" because fun is just frivolous nonsense and not what you're looking for)...? Do you explain to them how appealing they are based on symmetry and fertility markers? And let them know to stop with all of the selective behavior and ridiculous standards, quit being so illogical, lest they die alone, as each day (and they've been single for X number of days, since you've been counting) increases the odds of dying alone by a factor of Y?
Are you also gathering data on the results of this experiment? Will you be publishing a paper? Inquiring minds want to know.
Actually you might do better just sending them Spock memes. I quite enjoyed that last one, by the way, so thanks for that.
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O-hey, to those (Marshyy) debating if women like "older" men, I really believe that's a case of programming being more dominant than wiring, in other words--Sure, Nature is a thing, but so also is Nurture and if you discount it then you are not seeing the whole picture. Most 19 year old men would not marry a 72 year old woman. But there was a news story being dissected in another forum of that very thing happening. The dude was raised by his Grandma, and I think that probably had a WHOLE LOT to do with him finding joy in an older lady (even if he will always be an odd case.) I received the best nurturing from the older generations of relatives in my own family, which I believe is a strong factor in my appreciation for older people, including older partners. I also have a lot of family programming as a caregiver, as I was put into that role at a young age...so the idea of caring for an aging partner does not bother me. Hence, I'm with a guy a full generation older than I am. But I'm very happy with this.
More likely you came to accept the fact that you can no longer attract attractive 20 year old women anymore. So you make do with those older women because sex, up to a point, with someone who ain't all that pretty and fit and firm, is better than no sex at all.
Have you ever actually been in a successful long term relationship? There's a big difference between renting someone for a few hours to have sex with them and actually living with them for many years.
More likely you came to accept the fact that you can no longer attract attractive 20 year old women anymore. So you make do with those older women because sex, up to a point, with someone who ain't all that pretty and fit and firm, is better than no sex at all.
I'm not interested in having sex with children. What happens when I want to discuss music and mention The Beatles and she thinks I'm talking about bugs?
Hey, RJ, I'm curious dude, do you gather data into a spreadsheet on how many days that various women in your area are on OLD sites so as to assess how their unrealistic expectations are causing them to continue being alone, so that you can then explain to them in messages where on the curve they are and provide citations to inform them about how their own sexuality works according to Kinsey and other studies, and tell them the relevant points of masculine attractiveness that you display, what parts of their brains are supposed to be stimulated by that, and tell them that they are stupid and wrong if they don't go on a date with you (which should not need to be "fun" because fun is just frivolous nonsense and not what you're looking for)...? Do you explain to them how appealing they are based on symmetry and fertility markers? And let them know to stop with all of the selective behavior and ridiculous standards, quit being so illogical, lest they die alone, as each day (and they've been single for X number of days, since you've been counting) increases the odds of dying alone by a factor of Y?
Are you also gathering data on the results of this experiment? Will you be publishing a paper? Inquiring minds want to know.
Actually you might do better just sending them Spock memes. I quite enjoyed that last one, by the way, so thanks for that.
It all depends on how my interactions with these women progress. My exwife and I would have deep, analytical discussions all the time. We'd read books together and then talk for hours about what we learned and our objective or subjective interpretations. I'm currently talking with a woman from Florida and our conversations have moved into more advanced topics. Of course, I have to dial it back quite a bit because I don't want to scare her off. But that's something I've been working on for quite some time, and I believe I can perform enough self moderation to have a healthy relationship.
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