'I gave up': A look at how expensive dating is across U.S. states (guy, husband)
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I suppose I don't mind spending, since I don't play a dating numbers game. I'm very selective and text a decent amount to get information with respect to compatibility before even agreeing to meet. That and only considering well written and highly informative profiles.
It doesn't make much for an exiting life, but at least money is not much of an object for first or second date.
I was a bit taken aback by one women who insisted on paying her share, like it was against her religion to do otherwise. At first it made me feel a little bad (actually) and a bit awkward. But we had few more dates were we alternated (informally).
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I suppose I don't mind spending, since I don't play a dating numbers game. I'm very selective and text a decent amount to get information with respect to compatibility before even agreeing to meet. That and only considering well written and highly informative profiles.
It doesn't make much for an exiting life, but at least money is not much of an object for first or second date.
I was a bit taken aback by one women who insisted on paying her share, like it was against her religion to do otherwise. At first it made me feel a little bad (actually) and a bit awkward. But we had few more dates were we alternated (informally).
Sounds like a process I use for filling job vacancies.
To quote Lumbergh: "Didn't you get that memo" that says dating should be somewhat fun?
Sounds like a process I use for filling job vacancies.
To quote Lumbergh: "Didn't you get that memo" that says dating should be somewhat fun?
Maybe it's a genetic flaw or something, but uncertainty causes me mental pain and anguish. I just can't deal with it, in the same way others get a thrill about the unknown. For me the fun is in the meeting, after some familiarity has already been established. Less butterflies.
Only if you show up empty handed. And never host, or bring presents for the appropriate occasions. My house used to be the gathering spot for my extended family. Which I thoroughly enjoyed, but it’s most decidedly not free.
Yeah I'm guessing most people haven't dated those with close family or have close friends if they have to question this logic. Or maybe they think it's acceptable to be freeloaders?
What do people do if they are invited to a SO's close relative's birthday or wedding? Bring nothing?
Amen brother! I'm guilty of spending too much and regretting it every single time!
It's happened to me twice. It won't happen again.
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Bunch of cheapskates.
You guys are beyond pathetic. Not only are you cheap, you have zero imagination. Diss, you in particular, need to be in therapy. Horrible case of no class whatsoever.
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What is this big expectation thing? I seriously cannot recall a woman at least offering to pay half. I usually don't take them up on it, but they offer. And beyond the first date things are pretty much always traded off or split, unless one person earns a lot more than the other and has vastly different tastes (I've been on both sides of that equation).
If there are expectations they're ones I put on myself. I'm not going to blame anyone for that.
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So, for you, its really not about the money, but the antiquated role/expectations men have endured over the centuries?
Honestly, both p@$& me off.
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