'I gave up': A look at how expensive dating is across U.S. states (girls, good looking)
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My favorite dates usually include a walk through a park, botanical garden, or museum, with coffee or drinks afterward. Wherever I've lived, I made sure to buy an annual membership (for two) to a museum, garden, zoo, aquarium, et cetera. For example, in New Orleans I got a membership to the aquarium, which also provided clean rest rooms when around the French Quarter.
I've had nice (free) dates in DC on the National Mall, Lincoln Memorial, or the Smithsonians.
I've done the nice dinner, movies, plays, concerts, even a blind date to Cancun, but I find that my companion and I seem to enjoy the simple outings best.
There’s no rule that only men should pay. If I asked someone out, I’d take them someplace I could afford, even if it’s only coffee or pizza. The right woman will offer to pay her share.
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Which is all well and good, but then most men would be waiting a lifetime for a woman to ask him out. Men have to ask or they don't date and then are often expected to pay. A first date should be something light like a coffee (that's not being cheap). An expensive dinner for a first date is a guy just asking to be used or friendzoned.
I generally agree with gazzaa regarding being used or friendzoned from some of my experiences; however my blind date to Cancun led to a long-term relationship and (using her) season tickets to the Redskins :O Plus I already knew she had been a finalist in a State pageant.
Which is all well and good, but then most men would be waiting a lifetime for a woman to ask him out. Men have to ask or they don't date and then are often expected to pay. A first date should be something light like a coffee (that's not being cheap). An expensive dinner for a first date is a guy just asking to be used or friendzoned.
My husband believes I’m the one who proposed. . Our first date was sort of expensive, but he had a gift card. I though that was fantastic. I wasn’t raised to spend needlessly.
I’m sorry you don’t have women chasing after you, but if you worked it right, more might be hanging around hoping you’d ask.
Again, I thought being very selective with who you spend valuable resources on was what everyone did. Apparently, y’all have more resources to burn than I do.
I barely have a job anymore and pretty much no spending money, so I spend my free time doing weird ****. I’d buy you coffee at the drop of a hat just to get to know you better. That’s the point of a coffee date. You’re there to have a conversation and get a peak inside their world.
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I barely have a job anymore and pretty much no spending money, so I spend my free time doing weird ****. I’d buy you coffee at the drop of a hat just to get to know you better. That’s the point of a coffee date. You’re there to have a conversation and get a peak inside their world.
Okay fine that’s you and not me. I’ll still buy the damn coffee but I have a big problem with having to by default take the lead as a guy and ask her out and by default having to pay.
Okay fine that’s you and not me. I’ll still buy the damn coffee but I have a big problem with having to by default take the lead as a guy and ask her out and by default having to pay.
But Diss, you've posted in the past, that if a woman asks you out, there must be something wrong with her; you're not into women who do the asking out.
So....where does that leave you? Dateless?
Besides, if you click with someone over coffee, the initial dating process doesn't have to be expensive. You can do museum dates, and the like. Isn't there a big botanical garden/park in the DC area? There should be plenty of stuff to do. And by the time you two (hypothetically) decide you're into each other, she'd start spontaneously suggesting stuff to do.
That's all I'm willing to do. Most women I've dated want instant chemistry and will refuse a second date using that cop out line. No way I'm springing for an expensive dinner on the first date.
Amen brother! I'm guilty of spending too much and regretting it every single time!
Amen brother! I'm guilty of spending too much and regretting it every single time!
Coffee is fine. When are you guys going to understand this simple concept? One of my sexiest dates, up till that point, was over a first time coffee date. It’s not that hard to be charming.
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. Our first date was sort of expensive, but he had a gift card. I though that was fantastic. I wasn’t raised to spend needlessly. 
Apparently, y’all have more resources to burn than I do.
damn coffee but I have a big problem with having to by default take the lead as a guy and ask her 
