Guys -- what does "felt no chemistry" mean? What causes that? (girl, attractiveness)
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I see. Well I'm not going to lose sleep over it, I like being tall.
Nor should you, there's nothing you could do about it anyway. Someone mentioned earlier not to try to change your behavior on these dates, I agree - just be yourself. There are plenty of tall guys out there and (I assume) guys of avg height that aren't turned off by women who are as tall as them. All you can do is try not to take it personally, be objective about things and keep in mind this may be the problem with some of these dates.
Nor should you, there's nothing you could do about it anyway. Someone mentioned earlier not to try to change your behavior on these dates, I agree - just be yourself. There are plenty of tall guys out there and (I assume) guys of avg height that aren't turned off by women who are as tall as them. All you can do is try not to take it personally, be objective about things and keep in mind this may be the problem with some of these dates.
Thanks for your tips I appreciate it, yeah I am looking for someone who likes me for me, I just want to project the best version of myself as possible. I have another date here in a few minutes and I already feel a lot better about it.
Taking my dog for a walk to the park and having a little picnic. I hope this works out!
That sounds fun. Try not to hope too much, as that can come across as clingy or desperate. Instead, just try to enjoy each date for what it is. If it leads to something more, great. If not, it was still a pleasant time. Never try to make any relationship into something it isn't. When you meet someone who is right for you, everything just naturally falls into place. At least, that has been my experience.
It’s a general catch all in I’m not interested but trying to be polite. They are not attracted to you physically or mentally. There is some thing they don’t care for and it’s a deal breaker
I like you tend to speak as each word costs me $20 when I first meet people. So in the beginning I tend to be very quiet not very talkative. Once you get to know me I chatter like a monkey on meth.
Can someone be objectively attractive but you are not attracted to them physically or mentally?
Im so glad I'm not out there, the whole guessing game and all that goes with it. Best of luck to the op.chemistry is just something that is either there or not.
That sounds fun. Try not to hope too much, as that can come across as clingy or desperate. Instead, just try to enjoy each date for what it is. If it leads to something more, great. If not, it was still a pleasant time. Never try to make any relationship into something it isn't. When you meet someone who is right for you, everything just naturally falls into place. At least, that has been my experience.
Op, you've gotten some good advice so far, especially the above.
I too, recommend doing something other than coffee. Do something new, if possible. Food trucks, exploring a new walking trail, taking the dog out together, disc golf or frisbee at a local park, checking out a local festival or fair, etc are all good ideas. You want it to be an experience, and have a purpose outside of meeting the guy and getting to know him.
Also, as a fellow introvert, have you thought about giving a heads up (either on your profile or while communicating with potential dates) that you are an introvert and tend to be a bit reserved? Then they may not be surprised. You could even phrase it like, hey, I'm a great listener or something like that :-)
Can someone be objectively attractive but you are not attracted to them physically or mentally?
Of course. It happens all the time. You haven't been around much, have you?
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