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I feel like she may have been pissed off and it does sound weird the way things worked out but I am happy now as weird as that sounds.
I am going to try and talk to her.
Right. You're happy because you're absitively posilutely convinced you've finally found happily-ever-after with this new woman.
You know, giving yourself a little wiggle room about being so sure could be helpful to you in the long run if it all goes south. Of course, think positively. Give it your best. But unless you've found a crystal ball in the last few days, you don't know.
Blueplanet, she was probably lonely and got excited about the prospect of having a boyfriend. You two can still be friends but not before she finds herself a boyfriend. Until then, let her set the pace on how much she wants to talk to you as a friend.
With each day that passes I feel deeper for this woman and I know we have a future.
Maybe Emily was lonely. She always texted me back immediately, never seems to have much social plans but then she has been ill. Maybe I let her become too dependent on me too.
'Sigh' I didn't ghost her, I went quiet over a short time but I haven't cut her out.
It's all speculation as to if she has feelings for me too. That must be remembered
You're apparently ghosting her now. I've asked twice now if you had talked to her about and since you REFUSE to answer I'll presume you haven't. Yet you've had plenty of time to yap about it here for the past three days.
'Sigh' I didn't ghost her, I went quiet over a short time but I haven't cut her out.
We know. LOL. But you drastically altered the frequecy of contact without explanation... that's ghosting-lite LOL
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Originally Posted by Blueplanet123
With each day that passes I feel deeper for this woman and I know we have a future.
Maybe Emily was lonely. She always texted me back immediately, never seems to have much social plans but then she has been ill. Maybe I let her become too dependent on me too.
Dude. DON'T DO THIS. Don't make any assumptions about her feelings or motivations, especially not self-serving or pitying ones (poor Emily is just too attached to me!). Don't speculate on ways it might be her fault she could be upset.
I know the idea she might be upset or might judge you is uncomfortable for you, but that's YOUR problem, not hers. You already made it hers once when you avoided her over it. Don't do it again now by popping up being condesceding or subtly blaming her for being upset, if she even still is.
Just own that you did a crappy thing, apologize, and take it from there.
Maybe Emily was lonely. She always texted me back immediately, never seems to have much social plans but then she has been ill. Maybe I let her become too dependent on me too.
Yes, but she did the same with you in return. The only problem is, you didn't want Emily for more than a friend, but she wanted more. When these situations come to light you have to back off and let the one with the stronger feelings do what's right for them.
With each day that passes I feel deeper for this woman and I know we have a future.
Maybe Emily was lonely. She always texted me back immediately, never seems to have much social plans but then she has been ill. Maybe I let her become too dependent on me too.
I smell cognitive dissonance ALL THROUGH this post. You feel this NOW, but you don't know for sure if it'll last. Something could happen tomorrow and rip you two apart. You're too caught up in your own world to see reality, YOU MESSED UP. Just take the L and hold it. Don't be condescending...
"Aww Emily got too attached and fell for me....poor thing."
Some people here seem to think you are imagining all this. (feelings Emily has for you, etc)
That maybe Emily only wants to be platonic friends and isn't upset at all. Is that a possibility, Blueplanet? Really think about it.
I have said all along I don't think Emily has feelings for me or that I would be surprised if she did.
That said, I do know she is upset as she is barely talking to me, looked upset and didn't text me a happy birthday. She has pulled back for sure and is clearly not happy but I will talk to her.
I have said all along I don't think Emily has feelings for me or that I would be surprised if she did.
Okay then so why are we here?
(I get confused easily)
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