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Over the weekend he told me that he wanted to give us another chance and see what happens over the next 3 months. He told me he didn't want to rush things and he wanted to see if we could make things work. We went to the cinema on Sunday and we were acting like a normal couple, he wanted to hold hands and kiss me. But this was the best things got, since then he's been cold and distant all week hell occasionally kiss me in the middle of the night or when k leave for work on the morning, but he's gradually stopping
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I just want to shake this kid. He's cruel.
Agreed. He knows how to push J's buttons for sure.
And J -- you know he has turned on the charm plenty of times before only to act abusive seconds later. There's a whole history of this. Sweetness and then poison. Is this what you want in your life?
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We only have 1 bedroom.
This morning he was in bed and I was leaving for work...
He heard I was leaving and he called me from the bedroom
He said
"J... Are you leaving now?"
I told him that I was and he's like "oh i hope you have a nice day. See you later"
Why's he doing that?
He just messaged me asking if I'd like him to cook anything for our dinner.
Why's he doing that??
Because he's manipulative. He is playing you like he has for years.
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Jessica,
I've been there. It feels like part of your body has been cut off. It's bewildering and painful but the fact is, as enmeshed as you were, you are two different people, two different souls, with two different outlooks, needs and now desires. It's over, even if he holds out little shreds of hope, cruelly, for his own convenience, it's over. Neither of you were ready for what you had started.
Take it from a woman that has lived 75% of my life: In the end, if you will allow it to help you mature, you will see how all if this was just an event that had to happen for you to find out who you are and for you to redefine the terms of your life. You will eventually find someone who will treat you better when you treat yourself as someone that deserves to be treated with respect. You will find interests and passions outside of your relationships that will make you interesting and whole. It will be painful and bumpy and hard work but it's worth the trip.
If you have a girlfriend that you can couch-surf with for the short term until he gets out I would do this but he has to move out given everything you've written. You can't stay this way for a month or more for his convenience and your unwillingness to part.
I agree with how it feels. It is awful to realize that someone you've poured your heart and soul into doesn't feel the same way. It feels like your insides have been ripped out. But trust us, this will pass and once you stop focusing on HIM and focus on your own life you will reap the rewards. You are young and you have your whole life ahead of you. I promise.
Over the weekend he told me that he wanted to give us another chance and see what happens over the next 3 months. He told me he didn't want to rush things and he wanted to see if we could make things work. We went to the cinema on Sunday and we were acting like a normal couple, he wanted to hold hands and kiss me.
But this was the best things got, since then he's been cold and distant all week hell occasionally kiss me in the middle of the night or when k leave for work on the morning, but he's gradually stopping
He needs a place to live for a couple months so he's stringing you along. He might even have convinced himself he's "giving it a try" but realistically, he's just not logically ready to move out yet.
I'm very sorry to hear that...Can imagine now the situation is even harder for you. Didn't follow up with the whole story but I know he wants to break up. Be strong and be firm to him, also, you can take a rest for a weekend and start looking for another job.
J, what is your family situation? I think you said they don't live in London?
Are you on speaking terms with your parents?
Yes, I spoke to my mum and dad yesterday. We're on good speaking terms.
They don't live in London, they live in a small town about three hours away by car.
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