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People are noisy, OP. You either tell them what they want to know or ignore them. The latter choice might be met with hostility or insults, but whatever.
As for the status of your relationship, that's for you to decide. If you want to make it official, tell her so, but let her know what you're comfortable and uncomfortable with. If she's understanding then cool. If not, welp tough luck. Might want to cut her loose and be to yourself.
OP, you're in school. That means you have access to free counseling. This is the only time in your life that you'll have that free benefit, unless you at some point score some health insurance that covers it. I recommend you see a counselor for a few sessions about this extreme secretiveness. It's not normal. It's not just about being an introvert. There's undoubtedly more to it than that.
Do you ever hold hands with your gf in public? If not, why not? One is lead to question whether you genuinely love her and care for her; if you did, you wouldn't mind small gestures like that. She's not a disease that you need to keep hidden from the world, like an STD or Ebola. She's (presumably) your loved one. Do you even understand what love is? These are the types of questions that arise, based on your behavior.
Because they are your friends? When people couple up, it's usually big news in a social group.
I understand privacy, but this just sounds like a need to control.
I think you're onto something. A need to control not only the gf in a certain respect, but also what everyone in his social circle thinks about him, and about the two of them.
It doesn’t sound like a control issue, It sounds like a fear of confrontation or agency. The control aspect is transcendental
Do you dread socialization OP?
The relationship section of this forum is probably not the greatest place to address this.
Why is everyone making OP the bad guy here? Yes he should let this girl know if it wants to be official or not, but what business is it to everyone else?
Also do other women really feel not wanted if you're not showed off like a shiny new toy?
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