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I'm a single guy in my early thirties thinking about looking for a special someone. It seems like bars are where a lot of people go for this sort of thing, but I don't like going to them. Are there any good alternatives?
Foreign language classes.
They are invariably social requiring a lot of interactive exercises with your classmates. They also tend to have outings to restaurants or cafes. Thus, there is no need to break the ice or introduce yourself. It is done for you.
If you are looking for women, I would think French or Italian would attract the most.
Any recommendations for free sites? I know others are out there but I don't know which ones are any good.
You can try the free ones, but I found that the level of seriousness goes WAY down hill on the free side. At least if people are paying, then they have some vested interest in communicating and meeting others. (Of course, on some of the pay sites, you run into the problem of people dabbing their toes in the water for free but then not wanting to pay to communicate).
Which of course still shows that those who pay tend to be more serious about it in general.
Okcupid: I met my partner, and know 1 person who married a guy she met from the site
Bumble: friend who is in a relationship with a guy she met on there
Tinder: have a friend who met her husband on this site
Coffee Meets Bagel: I went on some dates with a handful of guys I met on this site. Nothing long term but the guys were all quality men
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I'll check those out, thanks.
Apps became a thing after my husband and I met and married. They're not really my thing, based on what I've read and heard from others. I met dozens of men from PoF and OKC. Several from my brief stints on Match (would not choose this option). I liken PoF to a dive bar. There's a lot of overlap between all of the major sites, so you'll see the same profiles, but the overall culture and vibe of PoF is very seedy bar-like. I did meet some interesting/good matches. My best matches came from OKC. I really liked its user interface and platform and the matching algorithm was an excellent tool for screening potential matches.
My husband had the best experience on OKC as well. He met his two previous girlfriends on there.
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Good grief people, learn to dance. Country dancing especially, go dance.
No, not all do at all. And there are options outside of Christianity, too. There are meditation groups, Buddhist groups, whatever.
Back when I was a practicing Buddhist, I visited local sanghas and met some really nice people. Some were single. I wasn't for a good chunk of the time I attended the groups.
I'm with you on that. Besides, I think it's a bit dishonest for a non-believer to be trolling churches looking for dates. Wouldn't you think the singles who attend church are believers? Wouldn't they reasonably expect other singles at church to also be believers?
Yeah, every time I see an attractive woman by herself (saw this one last weekend wandering the flea market, wearing some real tight jeans...I mean, wow, couldn't stop checkin' her out. lol) But...usually at flea markets or malls, the boyfriend or husband is around the corner or may pop up as soon as I make an approach...so I just assume they are taken or their S.O. is around and don't want to bother with the embarrassment of talking to a woman and then the boyfriends shows up.
Going back to this, seeing a woman BY HERSELF, I just assume they have a boyfriend that will show up in moments of me trying to talk to her. lol
Its kinda funny, but thats my experience as well. Every time I see someone attractive enough not already wearing a ring and BOOM! there he is, coming out from the pasta aisle or something. Never fails!
At this point, I think that for me meeting someone suitable will require some sort of divine intervention. Or maybe I will manage to make enough new friends so that hopefully one day will come out and say "hey, I think I know somebody, who knows somebody, who knows someone..."
Country line dancing or country dancing period is literally the worst place to meet chicks in the entire universe. Let's be honest here, there are not many guys who can even stand to be in the same club as country music, it's REALLY bad typically and the dancing doesn't involve grinding so there is not chance to build a rapport on the dance floor.
I would do the supermarket, there are lots of hot to trot chicks up in that piece typically.
Country line dancing or country dancing period is literally the worst place to meet chicks in the entire universe. Let's be honest here, there are not many guys who can even stand to be in the same club as country music, it's REALLY bad typically and the dancing doesn't involve grinding so there is not chance to build a rapport on the dance floor.
I would do the supermarket, there are lots of hot to trot chicks up in that piece typically.
Just because many guys have crap taste in music does not mean you can discount country line dancing places. I would only date a guy that does listen to country because most other stuff gives me a headache. Now I tended to be too cool for country line dancing but a lot of my friends went when they were single. I prefer the bar myself but have never met a man at one
HAHAH country "music" is enjoyed everywhere by chicks who also wear Yoga pants, drink Starbucks, shop at Target, and have chats on their IPhones about how basic everyone ELSE is. I mean to each his own, but country dancing is literally THE worst place in the world to meet eligible chicks.
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