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Yes I would be worried. Tine to start looking at other options..Do you have any ex that you can reconnect with?
It’s possible. I’m still friends with my ex.
So I talked to a friend (he’s much older than me.) and he said maybe he’s just interested in a friendship, and that their break up was for reasons other than they couldn’t be friends. Like it’s purely platonic.
So I talked to a friend (he’s much older than me.) and he said maybe he’s just interested in a friendship, and that their break up was for reasons other than they couldn’t be friends. Like it’s purely platonic.
Could that be possible? I mean I guess it could?
No, because of this stuff from your other thread about him:
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... but he said everytime they talk he gets sucked in and it even gets sexual but he said we tried to draw the line and just be friends but it’s not working out and that he’ll end the contact with her, also he said they had things in the way of them being together that are out of their control and that he made too many mistakes and when they reconnected she wanted him back but he said he’s scared he’d hurt her again because he’s difficult to understand.
He's romanticizing the "forces that kept them apart" instead of saying he's over her. That means if it weren't for those "forces," he would be with her.
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It seemed like he knows that whenever they talk he misses her cause he said whenever he hears her voice he feels like it’s not really over for him...
He's already lying to you. He told you at the beginning that he would cut contact, but he has revived it again.
I know you won't break up with him, since the poll you started for your last thread asking if you should date him came out 15 NO and 3 YES yet you still went forward with it, even though you claim to be very analytical.
I think you mostly want to analyze how to get what you want, which is a faithful boyfriend, but you can think about it day and night and you won't get that with this guy.
Why you continue to stand for this behavior is the real question.
How serious are you in this relationship? If serious, then tell him to either treat you with respect and let go of his past, or let you go so you can find someone that actually gives that kind of respect.
CB, for crying out loud, what the heck are you doing? Why do you keep asking us these questions? How many more times can we answer the same basic question?
He's hung up on her.
All the rest of your questions are just mental gymnastics on your part to avoid dealing with this hard truth. Just stop it. Decide what YOU are going to do (stop asking us) and act accordingly.
I’m agreeing with everything you guys are saying, I promise you all that I am. I’m just at a loss now so my mind is trying to make any sense of it all. I’m unable to really process it. I’m sorry. I realize I’m coming off so screwed up right now and disappointing. Again, I’m sorry.
I’m asking questions not to make excuses, but to really convince myself once and for all.
So we talked. He assured me it’s nothing and that he’s just being cordial and thinks it’s the polite thing to do (to act like he does care about her still, by checking up on her.) and that he doesn’t see why they have to completely cut ties since it’s been a while since they dated.
So that’s really all he gave me. I do have aspergers so I do struggle at social cues so that may explain why I ask so many random questions, it’s just things that are easy and obvious to see for others isn’t as easy for me. I hope no one is fed up with me.
Hmmm I think what he told you was a load of horse pucky. So he thinks creeping on her page and watching everything she does is being polite and checking on her? Please, no man in his right FAITHFUL mind would do that...he's full of it.
So we talked. He assured me it’s nothing and that he’s just being cordial and thinks it’s the polite thing to do (to act like he does care about her still, by checking up on her.) and that he doesn’t see why they have to completely cut ties since it’s been a while since they dated.
So that’s really all he gave me. I do have aspergers so I do struggle at social cues so that may explain why I ask so many random questions, it’s just things that are easy and obvious to see for others isn’t as easy for me. I hope no one is fed up with me.
The aspergers diagnosis does explain a lot, but it also could explain why you are having a hard time understanding why his behavior is disrespectful and inappropriate.
Why is he worried more about being polite to her and acting like he does care about her than he is worried about YOUR feelings?
His "explanation" sounds like complete BS to me. It seems he just wants to find a way to get you off his back while still being able to keep tabs on his ex.
His "explanation" sounds like complete BS to me. It seems he just wants to find a way to get you off his back while still being able to keep tabs on his ex.
Amen
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