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OP talked about girls, liking him, girls pursuing him and not having a shortage of dates, but didn't mention if he had actively pursued anyone or even if he likes girls at all? Taking the religious upbringing into account and being taught that its Adam and Eve and nothing else, maybe you are repressing other desires that is preventing you from going all the way with a girl?
Gotta chime in here just because I actually like virgin guys. It's very nearly a fetish for me. I've had excellent sexual experiences with 'em, they're usually eager to learn, eager to please, don't think they are King <poop> of <fork> Mountain and know it all, don't bring stuff to the bedroom that some other woman in their past liked but I don't... The first time can be a little awkward or something sometimes, but it often isn't. I don't think a guy should wig himself out over it. I really don't.
The part of your OP that had me rolling my eyes was the "I am VERY unique!" emphasis. Like no one has ever been through what you've been through in life? You would be surprised, guy. Behind their big talk, plenty of guys actually have. You're not a unicorn in this. Especially not in your early 20's.
Find you an experienced woman eager to corrupt your innocence and you'll have a blast.
The only part I think is problematic, because I think you could get over your religious and sex-negative stuff with relative ease if you opened yourself up to the possibility, is that you're at a higher risk of getting very emotionally attached way too easily or too soon, with your first lover, and you need to be careful with that stuff. I have found that any time someone (man or woman) comes on too strong with feelings too soon, when the other one isn't there yet, it's a recipe for hurt. Although I should also say, I don't believe that hurt feelings are the end of the world. I think that a little heartbreak can help you grow as a person...it's part of living and learning... But that's just me. Eternal Goth Pollyanna that I somehow manage to be. lol
OP, I suspect you have a very low level of libido.
A young man in his 20's, who has a clean, pretty, nice, willing woman he's dating and when it comes to the moment of PIV just isn't interested, that's likely nothing more than low libido.
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OP, I suspect you have a very low level of libido.
A young man in his 20's, who has a clean, pretty, nice, willing woman he's dating and when it comes to the moment of PIV just isn't interested, that's likely nothing more than low libido.
Or and possibly more common, they're getting off anyway so don't feel the need to cater to what they since consider the 'most intimate'
I always find this funny, not in a laughable way, that 'everything else' is considered less intimate since sometimes just PIV is much less intimate.
Or and possibly more common, they're getting off anyway so don't feel the need to cater to what they since consider the 'most intimate'
I always find this funny, not in a laughable way, that 'everything else' is considered less intimate since sometimes just PIV is much less intimate.
I agree, of all the things partners can do in bed, PIV is probably the most guarded form of intimacy. I personally feel that other expressions lead you to feel more vulnerable. But that's an opinion that has changed with age.
Gotta chime in here just because I actually like virgin guys. It's very nearly a fetish for me. I've had excellent sexual experiences with 'em, they're usually eager to learn, eager to please, don't think they are King <poop> of <fork> Mountain and know it all, don't bring stuff to the bedroom that some other woman in their past liked but I don't... The first time can be a little awkward or something sometimes, but it often isn't. I don't think a guy should wig himself out over it. I really don't.
The part of your OP that had me rolling my eyes was the "I am VERY unique!" emphasis. Like no one has ever been through what you've been through in life? You would be surprised, guy. Behind their big talk, plenty of guys actually have. You're not a unicorn in this. Especially not in your early 20's.
Find you an experienced woman eager to corrupt your innocence and you'll have a blast.
The only part I think is problematic, because I think you could get over your religious and sex-negative stuff with relative ease if you opened yourself up to the possibility, is that you're at a higher risk of getting very emotionally attached way too easily or too soon, with your first lover, and you need to be careful with that stuff. I have found that any time someone (man or woman) comes on too strong with feelings too soon, when the other one isn't there yet, it's a recipe for hurt. Although I should also say, I don't believe that hurt feelings are the end of the world. I think that a little heartbreak can help you grow as a person...it's part of living and learning... But that's just me. Eternal Goth Pollyanna that I somehow manage to be. lol
Yeah I defiantly understand what you’re saying about a lot of guys being in this situation , think it’s more prevalent now as I’ve seen social skills are much worse. Of course you wouldn’t know because guys lie that’s what I’ve done and in being a normal guy who gets attraction from girls no one questioned it.
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