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Is this an old and set in your ways problem? Like you know what works for you and are much quicker to end things when red flags pop up? Shouldn't knowing much more about yourself work to your advantage as you mature? Or is it simply younger people are more attractive so your options as an older person are limited? Thoughts?
There's less of a need, frankly, to couple up. You may already have a support system of family and friends who are there when you need them but not when you don't.
You've been through things, and you're less likely to risk going through them again.
The good ones are already taken, presumably.
Younger people are ready to experience some of the benchmarks of life, and they are more eager about it. If you've had kids etc, you're just "been there, done that."
Your hormones are not raging like they used to.
Not all of these reasons apply to every person, of course.
Is this an old and set in your ways problem? Like you know what works for you and are much quicker to end things when red flags pop up? Shouldn't knowing much more about yourself work to your advantage as you mature? Or is it simply younger people are more attractive so your options as an older person are limited? Thoughts?
There are less people in your age range who aren't already coupled up
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I'm happy being alone. More secure with myself. Have a good social network, so I don't need to be in a relationship if its suboptimal.
I know better what works and what doesn't, and because of the above, I don't deal with that which doesn't.
I find there are still tons of great people out there, plenty of connections to make, but they/we just aren't desperate to latch on. If it happens, great, if not, whatever.
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There are just way fewer options.
I don't see that there are fewer options. Quite the opposite. But I'm comparing my 20s to 40s. Now there is OLD which didn't exist then (in my 20s), so my opportunities increased greatly in my later 30s into 40s which OLD becoming mainstream. I don't see any shortage of awesome women at all.
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There's no hard and fast rule. Everyone is different. I never had any problem getting into a relationship after the end of my 20 year marriage. I enjoy companionship and seek that. I didn't feel like the person I was in a relationship had to be marriage material, but rather someone to do things with. When I met my wife, I was very glad to have found someone that I could trust enough to make a marriage commitment with.
Sure, some people get divorced, and some married people have relationships outside of that marriage, etc, but the point should be obvious
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