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Boundaries and expectations are set by the couple and no one else.
As you can see from the replies in this thread, each person has their own....
Personally, there is nothing inherently wrong with having lunch with a friend.. even of the opposite sex. I'd have no problem with someone I'm with to do the same.
I can't believe this one! I went to lunch with female coworkers all the time. And both wives (with a divorce in between) knew about it and, if they happen to call me, or me them, while the coworker and I were eating they would tell me to tell them hello. It all boils down to a word that's been around for centuries. It's called trust. I'm till looking at the first page of posts on this and the comment is "if it's an old flame, it's not okay unless the spouse says it's okay". I went to lunch several times with my ex after I remarried and didn't tell my wife till that night, if I remembered at all. It's just lunch! We have kids. They weren't with us but nothing was going to happen but talking and eating. Wow, talk about making drama out of nothing!
Ya but that falls into the önce in a blue moon" category. That truly is a professional meeting. Way different.
Not really no.. I have an offsite lunch with 2 female and a male co-worker next week all in different departments. The only understanding is that no work will be discussed at lunch.
I still reject the notion expressed in this thread and reject is strongly.
I have a couple of male friends that I have lunch with once in awhile. All of us are married. No spouses need to be worried. It's completely platonic. I go back several years with both of them.
Relationship experiences has taught me to avoid any appearance of impropriety while in a relationship. I can’t find any reason to have lunch with any other woman alone, whether it’s a longtime friend or for business. Some might say I’m insecure, but I consider it smart and respectful.
Not really no.. I have an offsite lunch with 2 female and a male co-worker next week all in different departments. The only understanding is that no work will be discussed at lunch.
I still reject the notion expressed in this thread and reject is strongly.
What you described is totally different, but OK. Please feel free to send her kiss-kiss-heart emojis afterwards.
I think it's something couples need to discuss and hopefully agree upon. There's no one right answer and it will likely end up being "settled" by the more conservative person in the relationship....that or even having the discussion will reveal a deeper incompatibility due to trust/jealousy issues.
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Relationship experiences has taught me to avoid any appearance of impropriety while in a relationship. I can’t find any reason to have lunch with any other woman alone, whether it’s a longtime friend or for business. Some might say I’m insecure, but I consider it smart and respectful.
You wouldnt think twice about a business lunch with a male.....but you are biased against a woman in business because it could be seen as inappropriate? That’s awful....We’ve come too far to not be treated like other professionals in the same settings......because of how it *looks*?
I grab lunch with doctors & other nurses all the time...sometimes they are male & we are alone because we’re on break together! I don’t care how it looks....I’m having lunch with people that work with me.....
E d i t: lunch with an ex is different than business or a work friend.......I would never have lunch with any ex & I wouldn’t want my Bf to either.......
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