My FWB has stopped cuddling me (boyfriend, marriages, guy, loving)
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To cuddle with someone you've got to feel some actual affection for them. Its an affectionate act. Maybe there is still some hard feelings for him due to your bad parting. He may be willing to have sex with you but just isn't feeling it enough to want to cuddle.
But of course you have to ask him because all we can do here is make guesses.
But in a non paying situation like OP's, my best guess is, he cuddled before because he enjoyed it. I doubt she was paying him. He doesn't cuddle her now because he doesn't enjoy it now. Maybe because the motivation (affection) that usually drives someone to want to cuddle, just isn't there now.
Me and my FWB started sleeping with each other again 9 weeks ago after not seeing each other for 4 years due to a bad parting and me getting in a relationship.
The first 7 weeks were great. Amazing sex and he was always affectionate with me like we’d never been apart.
I always stay the night in his bed. We’d always end up having sex before we fell asleep and he would always touch, kiss and cuddle me in the morning as we woke up.
The last two nights I have a slept there he hasn’t touched me when we’ve been in bed. No spoon during the night, no cuddles in the morning. Nothing! It’s all just stopped and he gets straight out of bed.
The affection has still been great before we get in bed however.
The first time I put it down to him having a bad nights sleep due to a leg injury and the second time he said he felt rough due to having a cold but I’m not convinced. Should I ask him about this as it really bugging me. Something is off.
Isn't the whole point of that just to have a boink once in a while with no strings attached?
To cuddle with someone you've got to feel some actual affection for them. Its an affectionate act. Maybe there is still some hard feelings for him due to your bad parting. He may be willing to have sex with you but just isn't feeling it enough to want to cuddle.
But of course you have to ask him because all we can do here is make guesses.
I agree, especially when it comes to men. I find that men typically cuddle with people they have affection/feelings for. Sounds to me like once the initial excitement of sleeping with the OP wore off, he stopped feeling the need to cuddle.
Isn't the whole point of that just to have a boink once in a while with no strings attached?
The issue seems to be the people who don't like to think of themselves as someones Mod cut. or their SWNS easy lay...
so they gravitate to the "nicer" sounding far more treacherous to actually maintain ... FWB.
I understand the mean of FWB but my concern is why was the cuddling so prevalent at the start and went without saying, to all the sudden nothing.
And he’ll cuddle me on the sofa but has stopped doing it in bed. That’s what’s confusing.
So ASK HIM.
There isn't one person on this forum who can answer that question because none of us are your FWB.
You already talked when he told you he had a cold. I am guessing you asked about the change in his behavior. I would back off and give him a chance to decide if there is a conflict worth resolving.
I think many women want the cuddling just as much as sex in a FWB "relationship". I know that's something I want. Due to my busy life with kids/work I don't really have time for a relationship but I still crave a certain level of intimacy. The last guy I was with, the reason I quit getting together with him is because after sex he would just get up and go to his livingroom to watch tv so I'd leave. I'd always drive home feeling unsatisfied. While the sex was good, it felt incomplete with the cuddling afterwards. If the OP is feeling unsatisfied because of the lack of cuddles or conversation I think it's time to quit him.
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