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I think many women want the cuddling just as much as sex in a FWB "relationship". I know that's something I want. Due to my busy life with kids/work I don't really have time for a relationship but I still crave a certain level of intimacy. The last guy I was with, the reason I quit getting together with him is because after sex he would just get up and go to his livingroom to watch tv so I'd leave. I'd always drive home feeling unsatisfied. While the sex was good, it felt incomplete with the cuddling afterwards. If the OP is feeling unsatisfied because of the lack of cuddles or conversation I think it's time to quit him. He's not giving you what you want
Me and my FWB started sleeping with each other again 9 weeks ago after not seeing each other for 4 years due to a bad parting and me getting in a relationship.
The first 7 weeks were great. Amazing sex and he was always affectionate with me like we’d never been apart.
I always stay the night in his bed. We’d always end up having sex before we fell asleep and he would always touch, kiss and cuddle me in the morning as we woke up.
The last two nights I have a slept there he hasn’t touched me when we’ve been in bed. No spoon during the night, no cuddles in the morning. Nothing! It’s all just stopped and he gets straight out of bed.
The affection has still been great before we get in bed however.
The first time I put it down to him having a bad nights sleep due to a leg injury and the second time he said he felt rough due to having a cold but I’m not convinced. Should I ask him about this as it really bugging me. Something is off.
Why would it be important to you for him to cuddle with you or otherwise act "caring" when you have entered into the most uncaring relationship known to man?
Could it be that the old FWB has raised it's ugly head and maybe someone is going to get hurt? If you agree to NSA sex only then you should not expect even a kiss. Also, you don't deserve a kiss, nor do you deserve anything other than what you got. Sex.
I understand the mean of FWB but my concern is why was the cuddling so prevalent at the start and went without saying, to all the sudden nothing.
And he’ll cuddle me on the sofa but has stopped doing it in bed. That’s what’s confusing.
Because w/ FWBs, there are NO rules, nothing has to be consistent, & it's just sex...as both parties in the arrangement should have known from day 1. The 2 people involved can be as generous or stingy as they want w/ affection they give & all that. I'm personally NOT for FWBs AT ALL. I don't like them 1 bit.
That's the risks you take when you enter into this kind of arrangement.
I think many women want the cuddling just as much as sex in a FWB "relationship". I know that's something I want. Due to my busy life with kids/work I don't really have time for a relationship but I still crave a certain level of intimacy. The last guy I was with, the reason I quit getting together with him is because after sex he would just get up and go to his livingroom to watch tv so I'd leave. I'd always drive home feeling unsatisfied. While the sex was good, it felt incomplete with the cuddling afterwards. If the OP is feeling unsatisfied because of the lack of cuddles or conversation I think it's time to quit him.
Nop, cuddling after sex has no place in a FWB relationship. It works as a preamble before sex but after the act, each person must stop and go on their own. If you are not satisfied, find a boyfriend.
Who decides these "rules"? Is there a FWB guide book?
I had a longtime FWB between my marriages. It wasn't a relationship but it was very romantic. It was warm and loving, not cold and clinical. Sleeping through the night together, spending time together during the day, etc.
But if we got into relationships we'd stop seeing each other for the duration.
And in the OP's case, her friend did cuddle but no longer does. Why the change?
It could be that someone has caught his eye and he's slowly drifting away from OP.
It could also be that he's losing interest. Only he knows for sure.
OP could cuddle him and sweetly tell him she misses their cuddling. See how he reacts, what he says.
Personally speaking, without affection there would be no "benefits."
Me and my FWB started sleeping with each other again 9 weeks ago after not seeing each other for 4 years due to a bad parting and me getting in a relationship.
The first 7 weeks were great. Amazing sex and he was always affectionate with me like we’d never been apart.
I always stay the night in his bed. We’d always end up having sex before we fell asleep and he would always touch, kiss and cuddle me in the morning as we woke up.
The last two nights I have a slept there he hasn’t touched me when we’ve been in bed. No spoon during the night, no cuddles in the morning. Nothing! It’s all just stopped and he gets straight out of bed.
The affection has still been great before we get in bed however.
The first time I put it down to him having a bad nights sleep due to a leg injury and the second time he said he felt rough due to having a cold but I’m not convinced. Should I ask him about this as it really bugging me. Something is off.
He is just a fwb, so it's not really important, is it?
Nop, cuddling after sex has no place in a FWB relationship. It works as a preamble before sex but after the act, each person must stop and go on their own. If you are not satisfied, find a boyfriend.
Nope... Only those in the relationship, whatever it is, decides what is or is not.
One of the best nights sleep was next to FWBs even if there was no sex involved. Even today, we are still friends long after we have decided to be platonic. We both understood and respect each other's boundaries.
Because w/ FWBs, there are NO rules, nothing has to be consistent, & it's just sex...as both parties in the arrangement should have known from day 1. The 2 people involved can be as generous or stingy as they want w/ affection they give & all that. I'm personally NOT for FWBs AT ALL. I don't like them 1 bit.
That's the risks you take when you enter into this kind of arrangement.
There absolutely are parameters involved with FWB.
And my FWB and I are FRIENDS outside of the bedroom as well. We don't even go to bed every single time we get together. He was over last night to my place and we just sat on my couch listening to music, talking (and not talking at times), and drinking breakfast shots from 8:00 pm until he went home after 1:00 AM. No intimacy whatsoever. And that's ok, too.
Nop, cuddling after sex has no place in a FWB relationship. It works as a preamble before sex but after the act, each person must stop and go on their own. If you are not satisfied, find a boyfriend.
It does in mine. Before, during and after.
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