Could it be more than a hookup? (man, young, child)
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I’ve been casually seeing this guy for almost 3 months. It started out as a perfect casual relationship. He’s 23 and I’m 37 so I figured this would be just a fun hookup since we have a huge age difference. He works night shift and doesn’t always get weekends and I have a son part time so our schedules are kinda tough. He texts me everyday but we only hang out every other week.
I recently started getting really emotionally invested. He is just such a good guy it was hard to not fall for him. He’s just very easygoing and respectful. Always asking about my life and offering to pay for everything.
We went out last weekend and had such a good night together. It may have just been me but I felt serious sparks the next day. We just had so much fun. We were just all over eachother at the bar. Like the physical chemistry is intense. He was saying how the night before he was supposed to hang with friends but he wanted to hang with me. He gave me his sweatshirt and we walked home holding hands. We then cuddled on my roof in the rain. He was saying how romantic it was. Had a very passionate night after and cuddled all night. He was also saying at the bar how much fun he was having and we talked about doing it again the next weekend.
Meanwhile it’s now the next weekend and he has off but didn’t ask to hang. I was tempted to ask him but didn’t want to come off as needy. So now I’m wondering if he’s just not in to me besides a casual hookup or he is also not wanting to come off as needy or just hasn’t considered it due to our age difference or that I have a child.
Feel like our relationship has progressed slowly but I really am not sure what he is thinking. Do I need to bring up this convo or is there sometbing I can say casually to see where he stands ? I’m scared to ruin what we have if I tell him how I really feel now.
If he isn't asking to see you then it is probably just a few hookups.
You can tell him how you feel but I think you know how that's going to go. He's young. He's having fun. You guys more or less set those terms (not in so many words) from the beginning.
I hate to say it, but sounds more like FWB than full-on relationship.
You can confess your feelings to him but at such a young age (23) good chance you might scare him away.
I’ve been casually seeing this guy for almost 3 months. It started out as a perfect casual relationship. He’s 23 and I’m 37 so I figured this would be just a fun hookup since we have a huge age difference. He works night shift and doesn’t always get weekends and I have a son part time so our schedules are kinda tough. He texts me everyday but we only hang out every other week.
I recently started getting really emotionally invested. He is just such a good guy it was hard to not fall for him. He’s just very easygoing and respectful. Always asking about my life and offering to pay for everything.
We went out last weekend and had such a good night together. It may have just been me but I felt serious sparks the next day. We just had so much fun. We were just all over eachother at the bar. Like the physical chemistry is intense. He was saying how the night before he was supposed to hang with friends but he wanted to hang with me. He gave me his sweatshirt and we walked home holding hands. We then cuddled on my roof in the rain. He was saying how romantic it was. Had a very passionate night after and cuddled all night. He was also saying at the bar how much fun he was having and we talked about doing it again the next weekend.
Meanwhile it’s now the next weekend and he has off but didn’t ask to hang. I was tempted to ask him but didn’t want to come off as needy. So now I’m wondering if he’s just not in to me besides a casual hookup or he is also not wanting to come off as needy or just hasn’t considered it due to our age difference or that I have a child.
Feel like our relationship has progressed slowly but I really am not sure what he is thinking. Do I need to bring up this convo or is there sometbing I can say casually to see where he stands ? I’m scared to ruin what we have if I tell him how I really feel now.
It could be more than a hook up, but how likely do you think this is? Just go with the flow until whenever you are ready to move on.
I hate to say it, but sounds more like FWB than full-on relationship.
You can confess your feelings to him but at such a young age (23) good chance you might scare him away.
Ugh I know. Should I start distancing myself ? Cutting back on msgs? I don’t even know if he’s even been in a relationship. We haven’t had that convo either. Sucks I don’t want to lose the companionship.
Ugh I know. Should I start distancing myself ? Cutting back on msgs? I don’t even know if he’s even been in a relationship. We haven’t had that convo either. Sucks I don’t want to lose the companionship.
He’s 23, I mean sure it can happen but based on how young he is, the age difference and the fact that you have a child I’d say move on. If he wanted to see you this weekend he would’ve asked.
In my experience when a young man develops feelings he has a hard time hiding it and wants to spend every weekend and available evening with you, until it actually is a little annoying.
Ugh I know. Should I start distancing myself ? Cutting back on msgs? I don’t even know if he’s even been in a relationship. We haven’t had that convo either. Sucks I don’t want to lose the companionship.
You won't like the companionship for long anyway knowing you want more.
Maybe he noticed that you're getting attached and possibly want more. That's why he took a step back.
Hook-up is sex and not complications or drama.
You saw him 6x and know nothing about him.
You're 37 y.o. Why are you wasting your time on hook-ups if you want more??
As you conveyed- He did cancel on his friends to be with you. Maybe he needed some guy time for the weekend and chose to do such.
We don't know.
The possibility that he also may have needed the "cooling" off maybe a consideration to ponder.
Met the type that sincerely have to back off a bit, not that they don't want the relationship but man are they in a conundrum of balancing their freedom and attempting to maneuver a relationship.
I'd suggest to go about your days, with a brief text saying you hope to see him in the near future, if schedules permit. That gives him a nudge that you are understanding of his time and still are interested. Which you seem to be...based on what I read anyways....
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