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If I'm Hugh Hefner and have 3 hot ladies live with me and I support them I would be favorably looked on by many red blooded men and be considered a real player.
If I marry those same 3 women and they continue to live with me in a committed loving relationship, I become a criminal.
In the old days and today in many parts of the world taking multiple wives is acceptable. As we get older and there are more women then men, what would be wrong with a man taking additional wives if he can afford it and all parties agree?
Would it not be a benefit for the lonely women who seeks a committed family life and steady relationship ?
If I'm Hugh Hefner and have 3 hot ladies live with me and I support them I would be favorably looked on by many red blooded men and be considered a real player.
If I marry those same 3 women and they continue to live with me in a committed loving relationship, I become a criminal.
In the old days and today in many parts of the world taking multiple wives is acceptable. As we get older and there are more women then men, what would be wrong with a man taking additional wives if he can afford it and all parties agree?
Would it not be a benefit for the lonely women who seeks a committed family life and steady relationship ?
Nothing. That lonely woman should marry 3 men who seek a committed family life and steady relationship.
Maybe, each woman could be allowed 3 husbands and each man could be allowed 3 wives. That would be fair.
Would it be OK with you if each of your wives each had 2 other husbands or must they all live together with you?
If I'm Hugh Hefner and have 3 hot ladies live with me and I support them I would be favorably looked on by many red blooded men and be considered a real player.
If I marry those same 3 women and they continue to live with me in a committed loving relationship, I become a criminal.
In the old days and today in many parts of the world taking multiple wives is acceptable. As we get older and there are more women then men, what would be wrong with a man taking additional wives if he can afford it and all parties agree?
Would it not be a benefit for the lonely women who seeks a committed family life and steady relationship ?
Hugh Hefner isn't married. He can do what he wants. He's also rich, so he can doubly do what he wants. The ladies in question are well paid for what they do, no doubt.
What's wrong? The men don't take older wives, they want younger ones. If a man wants to take a 60 year old widow for his second wife, I doubt anyone would blink but he'd rather have a 20 year old. We don't have a surplus of 20 year olds like we do 60, 70 and 80 year old women,
Polygomy only makes sense if there are more women than men. Or reverse polygomy if there are more men than women. We don't have a surplus of women in the ages polygomous men would be marrying. We have a surplus of older women.
Also, two wives isn't a committed relationship. You cant commit to two women at once any more than I could commit to two men. Marriage is a committed relationship.
Speaking of benefits, would all the wives be entitled to legal benefits in your scenario, such as health care, etc.?
And who inherits the estate? Do they share social security benefits and retirement benefits? Can you imagine being a widow living on 1/3 of your husband's estate and 1/3 of his pension and 1/3 of his social security? It's hard enough with 100% of those things.
Now, if I had three husbands supporting me, I'd get three times the benefits That could work. I could divorce them all and collect alimony and child support from three men at once. Oh wait, I could just sleep around, have lots of kids and go on Maury to find out who's the daddy and do that too,
If I'm Hugh Hefner and have 3 hot ladies live with me and I support them I would be favorably looked on by many red blooded men and be considered a real player.
If I marry those same 3 women and they continue to live with me in a committed loving relationship, I become a criminal.
In the old days and today in many parts of the world taking multiple wives is acceptable. As we get older and there are more women then men, what would be wrong with a man taking additional wives if he can afford it and all parties agree?
Would it not be a benefit for the lonely women who seeks a committed family life and steady relationship ?
not trying to insult the poster..but this seems like a "is it your business question"..i mean society has made this big play about protecting the sanctity of marriage but we watch "bachelor"and "marry a millionair" faithfully every week..not to mention courts allow divorce for no other reason than we are ready to be un- married. if three women are ok with sharing a man and they are all over the age of 21 then i say good for him (or pitty on him lol) the problem we have with what they are doing on this compound is that these girls are being raised to accepth being part of a harem without any knowledge of much else, and are being forced to marry..thats the crime. it the whole reason there is a thing called statutory rape..not that one forced the victim but that one took advantage of the victim who had not the mental maturity to make a calculated judgement. so you are basicly in comparing hugh hefner with these compounds you are comparing apples and fish guts lol
Okay, seriously, what would be the purpose of more than one wife/husband? There are times I don't want the one I have. I have to second Chowhound's post. 3 husbands sounds like a nightmare not a dream.
I knew the answer to my OP before I threw it out for discussion and it did assume older women were in the realtionships who in their latter years can out number men by large amounts.
I work with women in their 50's & 60's who are single and there are few men around for them to establish a relationship or date. Many are very lonely. Very few 60 year old man want or can handle a 20 or 30 something bimbo.
Chowhound, I do agree with you and always said the suicide / murder rate would probably rise if this ever happened.
I knew the answer to my OP before I threw it out for discussion and it did assume older women were in the realtionships who in their latter years can out number men by large amounts.
I work with women in their 50's & 60's who are single and there are few men around for them to establish a relationship or date. Many are very lonely. Very few 60 year old man want or can handle a 20 or 30 something bimbo.
Chowhound, I do agree with you and always said the suicide / murder rate would probably rise if this ever happened.
I don't know what women you meet but the older women I know are enjoying being older and single. My grandmother used to tell me that the reason women out number men is that God wanted to give us a few years to enjoy ourselves after putting up with men all those years. Let me tell you, she enjoyed her widohood.
Most 60 year old men don't want multiple 60 year old wives either. As polygomy is practiced, you don't see old women married off. You see young ones married off. It's usually just a way for men to get more sex at the expense of women. Which is why it's against the law.
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That could work. I could divorce them all and collect alimony and child support from three men at once. Oh wait, I could just sleep around, have lots of kids and go on Maury to find out who's the daddy and do that too, 
