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Old 05-01-2011, 05:48 PM
 
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How can I get a date? I am very lonely in a big city and I know nobody.
life is passing me by and I don't meet any guys..
I am a bit sad and don't know what to do.
is 36 too old to start dating ? I think I look older because I am overweight. what are my chances to get dates?

I welcome any ideas and/or critics.
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Old 05-01-2011, 07:47 PM
 
Location: Vegas, baby, Vegas!
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1st) DUMP John Legend
2nd) Post a Picture
3rd) Man (well, umm woman) up - The only way to START dating is to START going out there!
(sitting home, bitching about not being able to date is the first issue) Go to a show, go to a library, go out in the wild, there are a lot of single men out there (I'm one) start finding things that interest you, then find people with the same interest!
4th) Being overweight doesn't make you unattractive it just gives you an excuse.
5th) My train of thought just derailed..

Jonathan
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Old 05-01-2011, 10:29 PM
 
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do you meet any girls/guys as friends?? have you had relationships/dates in the past??
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Old 05-01-2011, 10:29 PM
 
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i'll second the advice given. also, if you're not confident about the way you look, why don't you work on changing it? being overweight is more certainly something you can change, and it's healthier in the long run too.
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Old 05-01-2011, 10:50 PM
 
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First things first, do you like the way you look? If you're not confident in your appearance, then do something about it. Go to Curves, rent exercise tapes, etc. Go on a diet. Spend some time on working on you first. Also have hobbies so that you can be around people that like what you are interested in. Volunteer. Join Book Clubs. Get yourself out there to meet people.
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Old 05-02-2011, 12:13 AM
 
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First things first, do you like the way you look? If you're not confident in your appearance, then do something about it. Go to Curves, rent exercise tapes, etc. Go on a diet. Spend some time on working on you first. Also have hobbies so that you can be around people that like what you are interested in. Volunteer. Join Book Clubs. Get yourself out there to meet people.
This can apply to guys too.
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Old 05-02-2011, 12:15 AM
 
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This can apply to guys too.
Absolutely!
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Old 05-02-2011, 06:08 AM
 
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I know women that some consider to be beautiful who are very unhappy and have trouble in relationships; and I know women that some consider not physically attractive who are very happy and have wonderful relationships.

I like the suggestions offered about volunteering, or finding clubs/groups in your town that share your interests.

Liking and respecting ourselves is key to reaching out to others and fostering healthy relationships. How you carry yourself...and how you feel about yourself sends the message to others as to how approachable you are. If people don't feel comfortable around you, they'll back off....and I'm sure you feel that way if you don't feel comfortable around someone.

Is your age too old to begin dating? Absolutely not! Age has nothing to do with it. There's no rule on that.

And it may play out better if you develop friendships first with women as it could lead to you meeting and dating someone through them. A friend is not going to recommend a bad person.

Just relax and be yourself.
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Old 05-02-2011, 07:03 AM
 
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How can I get a date? I am very lonely in a big city and I know nobody.
life is passing me by and I don't meet any guys..
I am a bit sad and don't know what to do.
is 36 too old to start dating ? I think I look older because I am overweight. what are my chances to get dates?

I welcome any ideas and/or critics.
Your chances are as good as anyone elses. But they will be better if you muster up some confidence. I would just do a personal make over. Get a few new outfits, and look into improving your health and body.

If you join a gym chances are you will meet someone even if its just friends. Friends introduce you to people and other interests.

Just make your life and self as fabulous as you can and someone out there is going to want to share that with you.
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Old 05-02-2011, 07:17 AM
 
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Overweight often equals unhealthy and unhappy. That is not a good start.
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