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So I have been with a girl for about 4 years now. She is the first person I ever seriously dated. While things are great at times, I am not really sure if this is who I want to be with forever. However, things are good enough that I do not want to lose what I have in case I can not find anything better. She wants to get engaged now, but I have been putting it off.
Well, you have to decide right here and now. Always remember, not everything is greener on the other side of the fence. If you decide to see what else is out there, then you can kiss her butt good bye. You going out to look at other fresh meat, and then finding out she's the best you'll find, will leave her feeling you only want her because you cant find anything else.
hmmm, that's not really fair just staying with her just because your not sure if u can get better, i can imagine if she wants to marry you, she obviously really loves you and sees a possible future with you.
if you're second guessing then perhaps the relationship then maybe, just maybe, the relationship isn't right for you and you should move on, but then again, as BurtsBees said "the grass isn't always greener on the other side" and you could be loosing the best thing to happen you.
So I have been with a girl for about 4 years now. She is the first person I ever seriously dated. While things are great at times, I am not really sure if this is who I want to be with forever. However, things are good enough that I do not want to lose what I have in case I can not find anything better. She wants to get engaged now, but I have been putting it off.
Any advice?
Never settle out of fear that you will never find happiness again. In life if you want one, you have to take risks. Are you willing to take that risk?
My ex-fiance and I didn't follow through because I wasn't sure, and I backed out... It was good that I did, because now we're very close friends and actually get along better and have a stronger friendship. I never see myself being committed to him again, but I don't regret the 3.5 years with him.
So I have been with a girl for about 4 years now. She is the first person I ever seriously dated. While things are great at times, I am not really sure if this is who I want to be with forever. However, things are good enough that I do not want to lose what I have in case I can not find anything better. She wants to get engaged now, but I have been putting it off.
Any advice?
It really all depends on the two of you. Some people marry their first love, never put themselves through the singles' scene, never date and break up, date and break up, date and break up. They marry, settle down, make a life together.
You have to decide if you want to move on, find other women, date others -- some of whom you might be able to have a life with, others you'll find are a complete waste of time.
You have to decide if you're just having a minor case of cold feet, or if you're realizing this woman isn't the one you want to marry.
Never settle out of fear that you will never find happiness again. In life if you want one, you have to take risks. Are you willing to take that risk?
My ex-fiance and I didn't follow through because I wasn't sure, and I backed out... It was good that I did, because now we're very close friends and actually get along better and have a stronger friendship. I never see myself being committed to him again, but I don't regret the 3.5 years with him.
What is your point?
If you are happy, you shouldn't get married?
If you dump him, he'll become a better friend, but not one to get married to?
If you dump him, he'll become a better friend, but not one to get married to?
My point is if he's unhappy he shouldn't settle, and marry the woman out of fear he'll ever find anyone again!
My situation was my situation. I didn't settle out of fear that I'll never find the man I want to marry. It just so happens that my ex and I are better off friends.
So I have been with a girl for about 4 years now. She is the first person I ever seriously dated. While things are great at times, I am not really sure if this is who I want to be with forever. However, things are good enough that I do not want to lose what I have in case I can not find anything better. She wants to get engaged now, but I have been putting it off.
Any advice?
That's not reason enough to get married. You must be young. If you can imagine finding "anything better," you're not ready to get married.
You should be honest with your gf and tell her you're not sure. What's your age? Are either of you headed off to college? Already there?
I married my first real girlfriend. Big mistake. I think most people are better off if they date others a little before getting married; of course that's my personal opinion based on my personal experiences.
Good luck with whatever you decide.
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