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I've never wanted children. I never babysat. The sight of them annoys me except for cute babies. Once they are old enough to run around I can't stand them. It's a genetic thing because my sister never wanted them, either. I think I would be a good mom in some ways, but a bad mom in other ways. I know I wouldn't want to pass on my negative traits to somebody innocent. So I have kitties and I love them. Once in a while I'll have a moment where I think I wouldn't mind having a little girl (not that you have a choice), but that moment goes by quickly once I hear screaming and babble. I know it sounds awful, but I can't take it.
I'm in my early 30s so all I hear about is everyone's kids and what they're doing now, blah blah blah. I just find it boring. I can't wait until they're all in school and it's not so fascinating to everyone anymore.
I've never wanted children. I never babysat. The sight of them annoys me except for cute babies. Once they are old enough to run around I can't stand them. It's a genetic thing because my sister never wanted them, either. I think I would be a good mom in some ways, but a bad mom in other ways. I know I wouldn't want to pass on my negative traits to somebody innocent. So I have kitties and I love them. Once in a while I'll have a moment where I think I wouldn't mind having a little girl (not that you have a choice), but that moment goes by quickly once I hear screaming and babble. I know it sounds awful, but I can't take it.
I'm in my early 30s so all I hear about is everyone's kids and what they're doing now, blah blah blah. I just find it boring. I can't wait until they're all in school and it's not so fascinating to everyone anymore.
I found girls more annoying as well. They are also more difficult to handle in the classroom because they get upset over every petty thing and form cliques as young as 3 years old. If I ever had a child I would hope and pray it was a boy. I wouldn't want my daughter to become a brainless bubblehead that goes around saying "whatever" and "oh my god" all day.
I'm a teacher and a parent. I teach high school and have young children, so it doesn't feel like doing the same thing all day. When they reach high school, I'll probably move down to elementary school. My SIL had a child while a college student. Her child is an adult now. She told me a few years ago that if she could go back in time, she would never have had a child. Many mistakes were made and the world now has a very messed-up adult. If you know that children aren't for you, I'm glad you discovered that fact before a child is in the world.
Interesting. Maybe we parents in the parenting forum are too nice and keep getting all the anti-children threads.
I've never bothered with the Parenting Forum because I am not a parent, but I do have some questions so one day I'll stop by.
Maybe the regulars in the Relationship Forum are just lonely? But seriously, every time this topic comes up in there you get a few posts of people agreeing with you and then the hate fest begins. I don't know why. My GF hears it too, but from real people in real life.
I keep thinking that I really don't think I want children at all. Especially now that most people seem to be struggling, education costs are out of control, housing is ridiculous, and many other things are going on in this world. Why would I want to bring a child into this mess unless I was completely stable in all aspects of my life? So many people just have them to have them.
I know quite a few couples that never want to have kids and they are happy as well. I enjoy being around children and have been teaching for a few years, but it's nice to get out and have the rest of the night to myself and my husband and be spontaneous when we want to do something or go somewhere.
So who else has been contemplating not having children??
You are very wise/ I decided many years ago I would never make enough money to raise children by my standards. I am very pleased with my decision.
I found girls more annoying as well. They are also more difficult to handle in the classroom because they get upset over every petty thing and form cliques as young as 3 years old. If I ever had a child I would hope and pray it was a boy. I wouldn't want my daughter to become a brainless bubblehead that goes around saying "whatever" and "oh my god" all day.
No, sorry--you got the wrong idea. I was saying I would have preferred a girl, since I am one and I understand them better! I would much rather buy dollhouses than little army men. I know what you mean about the bubble head thing. I doubt my kid would end up that way since I'm a maniac about speaking and writing well and being a strong woman. If I had a boy I would be a maniac about teaching him to be a respectful young man so he would eventually become a "real man" and not an egotistical jerk.
Why would I want to bring a child into this mess unless I was completely stable in all aspects of my life? So many people just have them to have them.
I know quite a few couples that never want to have kids and they are happy as well. I enjoy being around children and have been teaching for a few years, but it's nice to get out and have the rest of the night to myself and my husband and be spontaneous when we want to do something or go somewhere
I give you credit for thinking about this.
I don't think everyone needs to have children to enjoy their life.
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Originally Posted by suzie02
I am aware that people can post whatever they want where ever they want. But the mods can move threads. I wish all the anti-parent threads were moved elsewhere even if they have to create another forum for them.
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I was just thinking about how things might be easier if there were a CF forum lol, but a "parents only" forum could work too.
I agree that a CF forum is a good suggestion.
I don't think a parents only forum would work, but a place for the CF to talk might be needed.
I don't know if anyone else is getting "hate" DM's or not but I've gotten 2 due to a few posts here from CF posters.
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