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Village you are so right. I have said countless times that I have no future with the other woman. I would always be paranoid she would repeat our mistake. It honestly is a toxic situation. The brief happiness filled a void long enough for me to see how messed up I had allowed my life to get. Oh and I don't have any illusions of being soul mates. You can come to love someone deeply over time. You can also have a raw attraction that makes sex amazing. You can be compatible with roughly 5% of the population. IMHO
You are so right Boneheaded. Brief happiness is good enough.Just don't hurt someone's relationship.Relationship is a complicated.No one can tell you if you are wrong. There is so much we won't understand.
Bonehead, I have been on my own now for 8 years. After my divorce I decided to focus on my child. There is no reason why a person such as yourself HAS TO HAVE SOMEONE else. That is in your own mind as a way to justify your behavior.
If a person is so dependent they have to have someone then that is a personal problem that should probably be addressed in therapy.
Bonehead, I have been on my own now for 8 years. After my divorce I decided to focus on my child. There is no reason why a person such as yourself HAS TO HAVE SOMEONE else. That is in your own mind as a way to justify your behavior.
If a person is so dependent they have to have someone then that is a personal problem that should probably be addressed in therapy.
You guys all seem to miss the part where I say "I know it is wrong" and "It is not a justification".
Lindsey if you are ok not having the company of the opposite sex....more power to you. I never said it is a requirement just that you need it. If not there would be no biological need to pair up.
You guys all seem to miss the part where I say "I know it is wrong" and "It is not a justification".
Lindsey if you are ok not having the company of the opposite sex....more power to you. I never said it is a requirement just that you need it. If not there would be no biological need to pair up.
My entire point is that your mind should be in control of that biological need. If your in a bad marriage that you can't see your way to working out then get a divorce. You owe your wife and your children at least that.
I have never understood how someone could get involved while their marriage is falling apart.
Frankly if I were dating someone and he spun me the story you did, just the fact he thought so little of his vows to his previous wife would be enough in and of itself to end things completely. I don't even have women friends who behave in this way. Dishonesty and lack of control are personality traits and they are not just limited to the circumstances you describe.
There is a category of men I call UNCLEAN. Once you have cheated on your spouse, been with another man sexually, become a priest or not taken responsibilty for your children then you are firmly in that unclean category and I wouldn't touch one of you with a ten foot pole.
If they're bad enough that you'd say they "deserve to be cheated on," they deserve to be divorced. They never deserve to be cheated on.
What is your take on that? Not judging, just wonder why you really believe that?
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