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Its all in the wording...Marital satisfaction is perception not able to be quantified. So of course you have more dissatisfaction when you have to spend more time making more people happy.
This article is absolutely ridiculous. Why would anyone create such a study? It reads like a guy who decided he didn't want children and created this to convince his SO.
What, does the truth scare you?
It's not the first one that's been done, yet it reaches the same conclusions as previous studies. Actually, probably one of the first studies of this kind was the informal poll Anne Landers did back in 1975. She asked "if you had to do it over again, would you have had kids?" An estimated 10,000 people responded; 70% said they would not have kids. That being a non-scientific study, not a whole lot of people took the numbers seriously, but it was probably the first venue where parents felt comfortable enough to say "yanno, sometimes having kids just sucks."
Its all in the wording...Marital satisfaction is perception not able to be quantified.
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In order to judge if a marriage is 'satisfactory', I'm thinking that would have to be a survey with a lot of questions There would have to be more than simply asking how having kids affects it. How happy you are with your job, your income, where you live, what kind of relationship you have with relatives, you sex life, health, perception of physical self and that of your partner ..... all that ties into marital 'satisfaction', IMO.
It's a complex relationship that cannot be defined by only one or two facets.
If they would happen to answer the phone during that 5 minutes of heaven...they would tell the person on the other end that "mommy and daddy are telling secrets"
It's not the first one that's been done, yet it reaches the same conclusions as previous studies. Actually, probably one of the first studies of this kind was the informal poll Anne Landers did back in 1975. She asked "if you had to do it over again, would you have had kids?" An estimated 10,000 people responded; 70% said they would not have kids. That being a non-scientific study, not a whole lot of people took the numbers seriously, but it was probably the first venue where parents felt comfortable enough to say "yanno, sometimes having kids just sucks."
So YOU are the guy who doesn't want kids trying to convince his SO that kids are bad.
Life is what you make it. Anyone who doesn't want kids just because they can't sleep in on Saturday or have sex in the living room are selfish jerks who shouldn't have children.
Kids would have certainly hurt my "marital satisfaction", which is why I did not have them. This works fine for both of us. People that have kids should have a very solid relationship and a very good idea of what they are getting into... NOT just have kids because it is something that you "just do" because you are married. In the age of birth control, you do have a CHOICE.
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The price of anything is the amount of life you exchange for it. ~Henry David Thoreau
IN regards to that article about "Kids May Hurt Marriage", there is also this statement:
"Couples who lived together before marriage experienced more problems after the birth of a child than those who lived separately before marriage, as did those whose parents fought or divorced."
Kids may hurt marriages (http://digg.com/d1oKoc - broken link)
Thoughts?
Polls can be misleading as you can different results by just phrasing the questions slightly different.
So polls for me hold little water.
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There would have to be more than simply asking how having kids affects it. How happy you are with your job, your income, where you live, what kind of relationship you have with relatives, you sex life, health, perception of physical self and that of your partner ..... all that ties into marital 'satisfaction', IMO. 
