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Seeing each other every other day, talking for an hour or two every night, stuff like that.
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Most people, not just women, would say that a real, adult relationship consists of a LOT more than just meeting up once a week at a hotel for a roll in the hay.
And are you holding your affection hostage for sex?
The longest relationship I had (8 months) with the most beautiful girl I've ever been with (tall, red head, gorgeous, modeled in a vodka commercial) was probably the least costly relationship I ever had.
Our dates were meeting up at a bar once a week after our jobs to talk and catch up and going to eachother's places afterwords. I think I only bought her maybe 4 or 5 martinis in the course of all that time.
Before that, I was with this other really pretty girl for 3 months. Our entire relationship was meeting up at a hotel room every week and chat over Chinese food and HBO after we had sex. Of course, I had to pay for the hotel rooms, but that was an expense I didn't mind. She even paid once.
These were the most satisfying relationships I ever had, and the least costly, and they were both with 2 extremely attractive girls, so I don't think looks is the issue.
I agree 100%. I had two serious relationships before I started casual dating. Once I started casual dating and getting FWBs my life was SIGNIFICANTLY better. When I was in serious relationship girls nagged me, I always had to pay, they tried to change me so on so forth. I got fed up with that crap and now I only do casual dating. You definitely don't want to be the guy dining her and taking her out on the town. If anything you can't buy a girl into bed, she'll take all your free handouts but it won't make her anymore sexually attracted to you. The only thing you'll get is a hug at the end of the night and probably a second date - so you can waste even more money on her. You might as well just hire a prostitute, probably cheaper in the long run. Likewise, if a girl is sexually attracted to you then she won't care what you buy her. I absolutely love casual dating and recommend every guy to try it out.
The two places I meet girls are either the bar or club. In that situation I only go when I need a FWB. I basically work the floor until I find someone who is sexually attracted to me (I find this out by asking them if they want to go back to my place after awhile). If she says no then I move on and find someone else, rinse and repeat. Once I find the girl, I take her back to my place and we have sex. Afterward I keep in contact with her and see if she wants to do it again. Also during this time I am getting to know her better and so on.
Another method I do is just cold approaching women. If I see a cute girl in public I'll chat her up for like 5 minutes and before I leave I tell her to add me on facebook. If she adds me then she is interested in something if not, I just move on. Once she adds me I then profile her facebook page. If her relationship status is not, "single" then I don't even bother making any further contact. If she is single then I'll send her a message or leave a comment on her page. Eventually I'll invite her to my place to watch a movie. Once we are watching a movie, you make your advances. If she is sexually attracted to you, she won't stop you. If she isn't she'll tell you to stop. If she does that then try and get her out of our place ASAP (without pissing her off, you don't want her to go ape s*** at your house) and don't contact her anymore.
The most important things for a guy to remember are:
1. Never stalk/chase a woman. If she isn't interested, move on.
2. If she doesn't give you what you want. Move on. Here are the strike-out rules to follow: first contact estbalish contact information, first call set up a date/place so you'll eventually be alone together, first time alone have sex. If she stalls out any longer, move on and don't spend so much time, "getting to know each other."
3. Never pay for anything (other than maybe transportation etc). Absolutely no dinners, movies, watching the little kitty kat show or anything like that. Complete waste of time.
4. Learn that confidence is established by taking risks (ie. talking to girls, making sexual advances when alone etc.), not by sitting passive on the sidelines. Remember, the more you get turned down the more likely you are to find someone who is a match for you.
5. Learn to find women you are sexually attracted to, not necessarily the hottest of the hottest. see rule 1.
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But that's NOT a real relationship.
It's a **** buddies deal.
Yea, that is what every guy wants. A **** buddy deal with a hot chick. So my advice to guys is don't bother with getting a, "real" relationship and just go straight for **** buddies. Love it!
Last edited by killer2021; 05-27-2009 at 12:33 AM..
Cyanosphere is like 21 years old or something. Like most 21 year olds, he wants to have sex with a girl, and then if he likes her, he'll MAYBE think about dating her. He doesn't want to have to go through the dating nonsense to get to what he really wants, the sex. I worked at a college last year and saw these types of relationships between girls and guys all the time. He's pissed because he has to actually work to get girl's attention, they don't just fall in his lap like they did at his last job.
Get over it Cyanosphere. Welcome to the real world.
I agree 100%. I had two serious relationships before I started casual dating. Once I started casual dating and getting FWBs my life was SIGNIFICANTLY better. When I was in serious relationship girls nagged me, I always had to pay, they tried to change me so on so forth. I got fed up with that crap and now I only do casual dating. You definitely don't want to be the guy dining her and taking her out on the town. If anything you can't buy a girl into bed, she'll take all your free handouts but it won't make her anymore sexually attracted to you. The only thing you'll get is a hug at the end of the night and probably a second date - so you can waste even more money on her. You might as well just hire a prostitute, probably cheaper in the long run. Likewise, if a girl is sexually attracted to you then she won't care what you buy her. I absolutely love casual dating and recommend every guy to try it out.
The two places I meet girls are either the bar or club. In that situation I only go when I need a FWB. I basically work the floor until I find someone who is sexually attracted to me (I find this out by asking them if they want to go back to my place after awhile). If she says no then I move on and find someone else, rinse and repeat. Once I find the girl, I take her back to my place and we have sex. Afterward I keep in contact with her and see if she wants to do it again. Also during this time I am getting to know her better and so on.
Another method I do is just cold approaching women. If I see a cute girl in public I'll chat her up for like 5 minutes and before I leave I tell her to add me on facebook. If she adds me then she is interested in something if not, I just move on. Once she adds me I then profile her facebook page. If her relationship status is not, "single" then I don't even bother making any further contact. If she is single then I'll send her a message or leave a comment on her page. Eventually I'll invite her to my place to watch a movie. Once we are watching a movie, you make your advances. If she is sexually attracted to you, she won't stop you. If she isn't she'll tell you to stop. If she does that then try and get her out of our place ASAP (without pissing her off, you don't want her to go ape s*** at your house) and don't contact her anymore.
The most important things for a guy to remember are:
1. Never stalk/chase a woman. If she isn't interested, move on.
2. If she doesn't give you what you want. Move on.
3. Never pay for anything (other than maybe transportation etc). Absolutely no dinners, movies, watching the little kitty kat show or anything like that. Complete waste of time.
4. Learn that confidence is established by taking risks (ie. talking to girls, making sexual advances when alone etc.), not by sitting passive on the sidelines. Remember, the more you get turned down the more likely you are to find someone who is a match for you.
5. Learn to find women you are sexually attracted to, not necessarily the hottest of the hottest. see rule 1.
lol. Thanks for proving my point Killer.
This is the mindset where Cyanosphere will be in a few years.
Doesn't sex without commitment get old after a while?
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