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I'm tall, thin, often wear earrings, nice fitting clothing, and have been called metrosexual by gay people. I am 100% straight, and the thought of anything gay usually makes me gag. I really could not give two ****s less what other people think of my appearance.
I'm tall, thin, often wear earrings, nice fitting clothing, and have been called metrosexual by gay people.
A few decades ago, this was the norm (minus the earrings). "Gentlemanly" was more popular than "manly", families were picky about who their daughter dated or married, and any guy falling short would catch heck from the in-laws. LOL
I'm tall, thin, often wear earrings, nice fitting clothing, and have been called metrosexual by gay people. I am 100% straight, and the thought of anything gay usually makes me gag. I really could not give two ****s less what other people think of my appearance.
Broman, well said.. I mean seriously, if people are so caught up about appearances and all that, well, they just need to build a bridge and get over themselves.
I could give two craps about what people think about me.. I am who I am, and if they can't accept that, they can move it along.
It seems like guys these days are so afraid of "looking gay" it makes forming new friendships difficult, especially among adults. For instance, two guys can't go out to eat together unless they have known each other for a long time, and if they do, it needs to be either fast food or a sports bar kind of place - no nice restaurants because that looks ghey. Two guys can't go to the movies together - if they do it has to be either a large group or the guys have to sit apart so a theater full of strangers don't think they are a couple. Heaven forbid any guys show physical affection for each other in a non-joking way or start talking to each other about their personal lives or any kind of serious conversation. Now sports, hunting, fishing, etc are all acceptable but what if I am not into these things? I don't consider myself gay but I sometimes wonder because I desire close, companion-style male friendship and most straight guys seem deathly afraid of this (with the exception of with their best friend they grew up with). Other cultures don't struggle with this, so why do Americans? Does me living in the rural South have anything to do with this or is this phenomenon nationwide?
I can speak from experience as I've had employees and a potential girlfriend call me gay because of the way I dress. I don't really so much as care about looking gay but I'm appalled that someone would say such a thing as if one group owns a certain look. The guy I eat lunch with almost everyday is gay and I often get questioned, etc.... Again, I'm kind of flattered yet a bit taken when someone calls me gay because of the way I dress or who I eat lunch with. Now there are SEVERAL guys who would be ready to fight over being called gay but thats because they maybe a bit insecure.
If I'm not mistaken, you're the guy who owns 200 pairs of shoes... I just can't believe people think that!
Some people collect baseball cards, I collect shoes. I prefer to have a clean appearance whenever I'm out. I DJ in my spare time at EDM clubs so I have to look good.
Last edited by ayahuasca_mike; 08-18-2009 at 11:09 PM..
If I'm not mistaken, you're the guy who owns 200 pairs of shoes... I just can't believe people think that!
But think about it!! If your guy has a large shoe collection, then he can't whine about your collection of pretty little shoes! That is if you're into shoes... which I am lol. I love a beautiful pair of heels.
Mostly due to insecurity. If a guy thinks he looks "gay" than he might think that women aren't going to think of him as straight and he will attract gay guys instead. Some guys are just insecure like that. I wouldn't think of things like that until a gay guy actually comes on to me, than I might have doubts about my appearance... but I'm just insecure like that
Why would any male be sitting in a booth at a nice resturant face to face with another male that they barely know? There is no logic to it.
True. However, most straight guys won't do a nice restaurant unless its with like their best friend from childhood or if its for strictly business purposes. Nice restaurants are fine for less developed friends if guys go in a larger group, but it can never be one on one, same with a movie. I have also learned to not add guy friends' on facebook too soon because that comes across as gay (ruined an acquaintanceship that way). Texting another guy for purposes of chitchat is also gay...guys only call or text each other when its something very important.
Not a problem where I live. Plus, I believe (in general) real men are, and should be confident enough in themselves and do the activities they want with friends without having to worry 'bout every little connotation. That's part of being a mature man.
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I just can't believe people think that!
I prefer to have a clean appearance whenever I'm out. I DJ in my spare time at EDM clubs so I have to look good.
That is if you're into shoes... which I am lol. I love a beautiful pair of heels.
