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Originally Posted by RoundRockinite
I am 5'5" tall. My dating life has been almost nil. I've been online dating for years and I do see most women's profiles want guys at least 5'10", even if they are short.
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Wow! I MUST respond to this. #1 If you are 5'5" and your dating life has been "almost nil" then I can assure you that there are a LOT of reasons for that and the very least of them is your height. That is an illusion that you may have told yourself to make things a bit easier to deal with. It's so much easier to say "It's not me, it's them. They're just prejudice against me." Well I am here to tell you that the problem is YOU my friend. But at least that is something that you can fix.
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Originally Posted by RoundRockinite
I don't feel comfortable dating a woman taller than I am. I prefer 5'0" to 5'3" so she can wear heals. And so I think an even greater challenge for short guys is that the range of women is extremely narrow. Yet, the tall guys have their pick of the litter. Their dating pool is huge.
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Guys like you make me want to start a business and take you guys out into the real world and let you see how ridiculously easy it is to get women when you have your stuff together. You'll never believe it unless you see it and just won't accept that the single biggest problem is YOU. None of what you have stated is factual. You see, with statements like that you are speaking for me and I just don't agree with you.
I must ask you a question: How many women do you want to date at one time? How many women do you need in your life? If there are 1000 women in a room do you actually think that there is anybody that all 1000 of them would want or be potentially interested in? Do you? If you found that there were only 20 that were potentially interested in you and you could get the best of the group of 20 what would be the problem? Especially if the best of the 20 turned out to be the best of the entire 1000. That's usually the reality that people miss. Out of 50,000,000 women it wouldn't matter to me if only one were interested in me if that one were the best (for me) of the bunch.
And no, tall guys do NOT "have their pick of the litter" as you put it. That is only in your head. Ridiculous. You are attempting to categorize people based on one category alone, height. Your statement assumes that if a man is tall then automatically by virtue of that alone he is also attractive; desirable; stable; secure; straight; interesting; charismatic; sexual; chivalrous; masculine and all the other things a decent woman looks for in a man.
"Hey... Ewww! Aww! there goes a tall guy let me get naked for him." Give me a break.
My best friend is 6'01" and very handsome. He's a serial
player and get's LOTS of girls but even he would tell you that what you said is not true. He's also a great guy (but not husband material cause he's a player), he's honest, a gentleman, masculine, rich and very good looking, yet I've gotten girls he couldn't get. And once he met my wife the first thing he asked me is "Does she have a friend?" And he only wishes it were as easy as you make it sound. He get's a lot of hot girls but he also strikes out a lot (as do MOST guys (...ALL ...100%) who are good at meeting, getting, and picking up women). But they just have the self-esteem to not make a big deal about rejection or spend more than 1/10 of a second trying to figure out what personal flaw to blame it on.
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Originally Posted by RoundRockinite
It is annoying to see super-short women dating giants. There is a local dentist with a photo on their website. She looks to be about 5'0" tall MAX. Her husband appears to be about 6'5". No kidding. Weird. If it is okay for her to need to file a request form for a kiss than so be it. I think it would be frustrating not to be able to kiss your husband when you want to.
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Why the h@## would it be
"annoying" to you to see anybody with whomever they chose to be with?
Why is that any concern of yours? I just don't get that mindset. If she wasn't with the "giant" she still would most likely not be with
YOU anyway. Even if she wanted to date a man your height it probably would still not be
YOU because very few women like
whiners and that's exactly what you're doing ...on an online forum no less.
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Originally Posted by RoundRockinite
Ben Stiller is listed as 5'6.5" or so and his super-hot wife is I think 5'6" or something.
The only area being short has bothered me is with dating.
I say just keep trying.
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I think that your own advice is lost on you. I also think that it's far too simplistic. It is not a good idea to "keep trying" when what you are doing is obviously
not working. That is the definition of insanity. Why are you expecting a different result? Remember, you've
"been online dating for years"
The problem most people have is with finding what they're looking for according to their standards. But you sound like a guy saying NOBODY wants you or will even date you and the REASON is because you are short. Yet other short guys meet women constantly and date at will whenever they feel like it rather it's online, offline, at clubs, on the street or wherever they go. So maybe ...just maybe ...possibly ...perhaps the real problem is YOU.
And that's actually good news because
that is something you can do something about.
So instead of "keep trying" what obviously is not working I would suggest examining yourself and find out what you can do about YOU, your approach, your style, the image you project to the world; your personality; your confidence; your persona and all the things that could make you more effective with women. Don't "keep trying" what's not working ...try something else. Fix what's wrong.
Good luck. Really.
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