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I was just reading a thread about flirting and I didn't want to hijack it, but I was wondering something.
I'm a woman and I know women can be very "grabby" when it comes to our friends, both female and male. Though for me personally at least, I'm way less touch-y with male friends or associates just because I wouldn't want to give someone the wrong idea. (I'm married.)
What about men who touch a lot? Not necessarily grabbing the female friend's knee as the post I'm referencing said, but just sitting close enough to be touching sides, leaning against the person's leg once in a while, hands brushing hands, etc. As I said, with women I wouldn't think twice. What about with a man?
Is something like that always flirting, or are some men just more physically affectionate than others, even in a platonic way?
I have known a couple of men like this and I immediately got an "ooh, that was a flirting kind of thing" vibe but logically, I realized that they were happily married/in no way a match/couldn't have been interested for [insert_reason_here]. Maybe it's just instinct that would make a woman think a man touching her in a friendly way is flirting? Would love others' input on this. I won't say "males only" since I'm sure women have had this sort of thing too and maybe were just friends with the person, etc., so all input is welcome.
I was just reading a thread about flirting and I didn't want to hijack it, but I was wondering something.
I'm a woman and I know women can be very "grabby" when it comes to our friends, both female and male. Though for me personally at least, I'm way less touch-y with male friends or associates just because I wouldn't want to give someone the wrong idea. (I'm married.)
What about men who touch a lot? Not necessarily grabbing the female friend's knee as the post I'm referencing said, but just sitting close enough to be touching sides, leaning against the person's leg once in a while, hands brushing hands, etc. As I said, with women I wouldn't think twice. What about with a man?
Is something like that always flirting, or are some men just more physically affectionate than others, even in a platonic way?
I have known a couple of men like this and I immediately got an "ooh, that was a flirting kind of thing" vibe but logically, I realized that they were happily married/in no way a match/couldn't have been interested for [insert_reason_here]. Maybe it's just instinct that would make a woman think a man touching her in a friendly way is flirting? Would love others' input on this. I won't say "males only" since I'm sure women have had this sort of thing too and maybe were just friends with the person, etc., so all input is welcome.
Plus I haven't started a thread in a while.
As I posted in the thread..... men don't "grab" women.....
Not unless we know that they really like us...... the OP in that thread was a pinhead............
As I posted in the thread..... men don't "grab" women.....
Not unless we know that they really like us...... the OP in that thread was a pinhead............
'K, thanks... I did just sort of physically back off the times that happened (this was some time ago)...just in case he was flirting. I guess that was a good call. Sometimes it's hard for me to read signals! Thanks, Chow, tried to rep ya but have to spread the love.
Ive never had a girl be like that to me platonically
Yuppers, like I said, as a woman, I avoid touching male friends/acquaintances that way, so perhaps your platonic female friends feel the same way I do and that's why they aren't "grabby" with you like they might be with their female friends.
I hope I'm making sense! It's after 9PM and I took an allergy pill.
I think I agree in general with what was already said. It is a thought though that I grew up in a "touchy" family. I'm used to being hugged and hugging back and so on. To me that feels right. Outside of this though I do not like being touched in a familiar way by people I don't know in any circumstance.
And yes, if she continues down that path the next post is going to be in some way relating to the ongoing affair.
Well, I'm a touch-y feel-y person and love to touch someone's arm briefly when I talk. I talk with my hands. But if I know it would make someone uncomfortable, I wouldn't do it.
But I do that for men and women that I'm talking with. Of course, I don't do it to people I hardly know.
Yeah...I'm pretty physically affectionate with both men and women I know and like. Mostly pats on the back...at work you really have to watch yourself, though...you don't want to create any questionable circumstances.
Mostly it's other people touching me, though.
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I did just sort of physically back off the times that happened (this was some time ago)...just in case he was flirting. I guess that was a good call. Sometimes it's hard for me to read signals! Thanks, Chow, tried to rep ya but have to spread the love.
