Divorcing someone because of extra weight...why is that "shallow"? (dating, married)
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Were you THERE when my wife and I were discussing divorce? No. If I tell you my wife divorced me because of my weight, then that's exactly why she did it.
To answer another poster's question: yes, I'm still overweight, but am working on getting back to a healthy weight, and am going to start counseling soon, to determine why I was (I guess still am), addicted to food.
I was never really depressed...never had any major family problems (in terms of my parents, siblings, etc)...never any job or financial problems. I never over-ate because of emotional reasons, like so many have.
I just love(d) food. Plain and simple. I was very selfish. But I'm glad that I'm at least taking this opportunity to learn from my mistakes, and never repeat them.
A smart person learns from their mistakes. A stupid person doesn't.
Uhm, your wife didn't divorce you for your weight. It was that you failed to take responsibility for yourself when whe tried to encouraged you. That wasn't shallow, that was her realizing that you loved food more than your marriage.
Look at your issue before you try to "educate" people. Sheesh!! That's another pet peeve! Members who project their problems in this forum on folks who are giving out the best advice they can instead of themselves.
I was thinking is there a bigger problem than the weight? I think you hit on a very valid point.
Uhm, your wife didn't divorce you for your weight. It was that you failed to take responsibility for yourself when whe tried to encouraged you. That wasn't shallow, that was her realizing that you loved food more than your marriage.
Look at your issue before you try to "educate" people. Sheesh!! That's another pet peeve! Members who project their problems in this forum on folks who are giving out the best advice they can instead of themselves.
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Originally Posted by LibraGirl123
You seem so complacent and passive about your divorce. Why do I have this weird feeling that the roles were actually reversed...that you were the active, fit spouse who wasn't getting any sex, and your wife was the one who became morbidly obese?
Talk about a pet peeve. Amazing how some people aren't satisfied with someone kicking himself, they create more fantasies to b*tch about.
......To answer another poster's question: yes, I'm still overweight, but am working on getting back to a healthy weight, and am going to start counseling soon, to determine why I was (I guess still am), addicted to food......
Please have a complete physical exam with laboratory testing to rule out any metabolic issues for the weight gain - thyroid, etc. - in addition to the counseling. Much luck to you.
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That wasn't shallow, that was her realizing that you loved food more than your marriage.
