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If you're going dutch, that means it's already established........you decide before the date, not after.
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Originally Posted by MIKEETC
I would pay for the first several dates, at a minimum. Seems reasonable to me. Going 'Dutch' is something I always interpret, during a date, as "this didn't go so well so here's some money to cover my half of your costs."
If it's a first time meeting from an online dating site and we're just doing the coffee meetup, which is usually what I insist on, I will most definitely want to pay my way so that no one will be out if it doesn't work out. If it's clearly a date, I won't insult him by offering to help pay, unless I really feel that it's what he wants. If I'm not clear that it's a date, I will pay my own way.
i would be surprised but would pay then for myself. the odds are though i wouldnt go out with a guy who insisted on that again. to me its kind of like saying i am not worth spending less than 15 bucks or so on and that it is his way of saying he isnt interested.
i would be surprised but would pay then for myself. the odds are though i wouldnt go out with a guy who insisted on that again. to me its kind of like saying i am not worth spending less than 15 bucks or so on and that it is his way of saying he isnt interested.
Yep, I'm betting Ron doesn't get nearly as many second dates as he could with this method
Yep, I'm betting Ron doesn't get nearly as many second dates as he could with this method
he might because there might be women who would see a guy again who didnt pay on the first date, just to see if he will pay for the 2nd lol. i almost did that once, but i wasnt interested enough in the guy to see him again after i heard back from him.
I like when a man pays. I think it is gentlemanly. I won't object to paying, but to me, splitting things down the middle makes it seem more like meeting a friend. For a bona-fide first date, I wouldn't be very impressed. Meeting someone for coffee after chatting for 30 minutes online? More of a friend thing. It does depend on the situation.
But, I like this idea of dutch. I like to buy a "round" of whatever we are doing, whether it be getting cocktails, playing pool, racing go-karts...you get the idea. That way, I still can contribute and show him that I appreciate what he has planned, but he still "takes care of" most of the date.
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