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For the 21 years I was single (divorced), I never attended church to meet a lady or even attended church that much period. My interest in rodeo and "partying" on Friday/Saturday nights just wouldn't cut it with a church lady! The men that I talked to in church reminded me a lot of "Squaredance" men......definitely not the "partying" type. Pretty much quiet and reserved. In the 80's-90's, I spent many Friday/Saturday nights either at rodeo dance (after the performance) or a large Country-Western nightclub (no rodeo weekend) having a few beers and yapping with the cowboys that I knew. The ladies I met were cool, but mainly not for me. Then came the Personal Ads and I got real lucky! Meeting someone in church can be fine, but I sure didn't have that type of personality!
I think christian women flatter themselves WAY TOO MUCH and you give them too much credit by arguing they want to be part of something bigger.
I haven't ran across too many Christian women. At least not what I would call truly religious. I have met a lot of women who go to church. Many of them feel going to church is just something that they are supposed to do (I live in a traditionally conservative area). I think women are likely to be influenced by this societal pressure than men are.
I've dated plenty of church boys in the past and for some reason they are attracted to me, an agnostic, which I really don't get. I would probably date a church guy again, but I definitely wouldn't date a conservative christian. There is a huge difference. Lot's of people go to church to network and socialize and, yes, meet people of the opposite sex. That's fine, just another avenue. And at least people who go to chuch usually have basic social skills.
You know, Smoky just has a problem with all men, judging from her history of posts. I attended church on my own as a single guy. Did I do it every week? Nope. But I was attending once a month. Nothing wrong with that--unless one is as closed-minded as the worst Bible beater out there.
The swinger couple I met lived in a nice brick surburban ranch home with a swimming pool, 3 big-screen TVs, a Mercedes station wagon and a new Chevy Tahoe. Interestingly enough, the house was only 2 miles from the church. The husband was in his mid-40s, lifted weights, and was an airline pilot. The wife was petite brunette in her early 30s, and worked in advertising or some public relations job. They were an attractive couple and seemed outgoing and social but otherwise fit in with the upscale conservative area.
I was intrigued to say the least about how they kept up "church appearances" while running the southern state version of Plato's Reteat. The wife served on a church board and did other community things as well. The husband suggested church was mostly her idea and he was something of an accessory. He later took off his speedo and I understood why she ran the show. The expression "shorted by nature" comes to mind.
Otherwise, I sized him up (OK bad choice of words) as straight but with a strong gay side to him. He was almost too touchyfeely for my taste and was way interested in what I was packing.
In all, it was an awesome experience. That was my first time having sex with 2 ladies at once with both husbands watching. We spent the rest of the weekend swimming, sunbathing, and exercising mostly nude or clothing optional.
After it all, I shook hands with them, drove away, and felt I had been nothing more than a piece of meat.
The swinger couple I met lived in a nice brick surburban ranch home with a swimming pool, 3 big-screen TVs, a Mercedes station wagon and a new Chevy Tahoe. Interestingly enough, the house was only 2 miles from the church. The husband was in his mid-40s, lifted weights, and was an airline pilot. The wife was petite brunette in her early 30s, and worked in advertising or some public relations job. They were an attractive couple and seemed outgoing and social but otherwise fit in with the upscale conservative area.
I was intrigued to say the least about how they kept up "church appearances" while running the southern state version of Plato's Reteat. The wife served on a church board and did other community things as well. The husband suggested church was mostly her idea and he was something of an accessory. He later took off his speedo and I understood why she ran the show. The expression "shorted by nature" comes to mind.
Otherwise, I sized him up (OK bad choice of words) as straight but with a strong gay side to him. He was almost too touchyfeely for my taste and was way interested in what I was packing.
In all, it was an awesome experience. That was my first time having sex with 2 ladies at once with both husbands watching. We spent the rest of the weekend swimming, sunbathing, and exercising mostly nude or clothing optional.
After it all, I shook hands with them, drove away, and felt I had been nothing more than a piece of meat.
Ummmm...thanks for that narrative. So what you're saying then is that all churchgoers are swingers. Right? Or were you just interested in telling us a story about your exploits?
I guess I was dumbfounded and really hurt by a couple who were members of my own faith and didn't know how to explain my feelings. Of course, as an adult I'm responsible for my actions and allowed myself to be used by these people and I got burned.
OK yes, if you go to a bar or adult bookstore then you expect to meet people who live on the fringes. I was just shocked and bewildered and maybe a little amused that this happened in a church from my childhood denomination.
I guess I was dumbfounded and really hurt by a couple who were members of my own faith and didn't know how to explain my feelings. Of course, as an adult I'm responsible for my actions and allowed myself to be used by these people and I got burned.
OK yes, if you go to a bar or adult bookstore then you expect to meet people who live on the fringes. I was just shocked and bewildered and maybe a little amused that this happened in a church from my childhood denomination.
I attend church once or twice a month. There are opportunites to meet people, especially if you join some of the groups or get involved with projects. Many churches have singles group to make it easier to meet folks. Just cause folks go to church it doesn't mean the didnt have a bunch of Jager shots the night before. Some just like to try and have a little spiritual guidance to think about. Once again it depends on the church, I have spent most of my time in large cities with big congregations. It may be weirder in small town churches.
I agree with you. It is weirder in small town churches. I grew up in one. People play more head games in small towns and in my experience, you can be forgiven for certain things depending on who your parents are (or are not).
We had a guy who was a pharmacist from a well-respected family. His mother was a lovely woman and taught me in primary Sunday School and the father was a deacon along with my own dad. Then one morning I got a call at college from my mother saying the FBI had arrested him for 24 counts of trafficking child pornography.
If you look back, the warning signs were all there. He always hired high school football players to work in his pharmacy gift shop. None of them lasted over 5 months and finally a parent complained to the police that the pharmacist had tried to get their son to pose for nude pictures.
The church did nothing and covered for him because of his parents. He served some Federal time and was allowed to reopen the gift shop and also back into the church.
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