What's up with single "church men" (engagement, child, personalities)
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Despite all the ranting and raving here.....your best bet to find a good man are in this order 1) Coach at the YMCA 2) Volunteer on the gradeschool playground 3) Bible Study or Church
Hi Beena,
Is that how one should shop for a new car? I do wonder what it is that only in one of the more important things in life do we concoct finding a mate as a side effect. You will sometimes find me on the play ground because I have a boy which is typical of married men. I am married because I decided I wanted a wife at that time and went and got her. If you are single and live in the burbs, good luck with that bible study or church group. Please choose from these 5 random people.
If you do like a less direct approach find activities that are skewed toward the opposing sex. Dance class for men or something like chess club or hunting for women. When I was a single man I was out fishing, camping or hiking or playing chess, not at a play ground. It might work for men with kids but poorly.
Hmm, let's see. Older women are "yammering old broads". Eligible men in church are smug and have swelled heads. Eligible men want the kind a woman you don't want to be. There are probably better guys somewhere else. And you're critical of others.
...and you wonder why you can't find a nice guy?
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Originally Posted by smoky_topaz
Any women on this board have much luck meeting men in church? I am so sick of every well-meaning elder or old broad yammering about how "I'll find a nice guy in church" OMG! Please. Ironic, but that is one place I don't recommend to single women. I think all Christian single women believe that the best place to find a so-called "good, godly man" is in church and so the men all KNOW THIS, so they kind of get a swelled head about themselves. Single women are always going to outnumber single men in church-that's a fact. The one place I have NEVER found anyone to date is church. Yes, I know my parents are part of this racket. Just because it happened in "their day". Why are single church guys so smug and put up this "front"? And I cannot stand the way they take the term "biblical" or "godly" wife out of context. I think what they really mean is a subservient, docile type woman out of a Mormon cult or something. Sorry guys, ladies I think it's time to start going to sporting events, political stuff, (heck, try taking woodworking classes, who knows.) places where you are outnumbered by men...You may have to do some research.....I know I am critical of others, but aren't most people a little critical of someone or some group out there...
How do women feel about single, so-called "Christian" men? your thoughts?
Meeting someone at church, "ify" at best! I know the type of personality I had when I was single (outgoing, funny/sarcastic, aggressive) and that I did like to "party" at times and most church ladies sure wouldn't go for that! In fact, some women would probably say, "if you want to date a really fun guy, you won't meet him in church!" but then again, some of those "church ladies" are the same way........DULL/BORING! And, from observing the men and women at the church that wife and I go to......that is all true! Some men and women think that meeting someone in a Nightclub is absolutely bad........not me, I did it for a number of years when I was single. Met some nice ladies, but things just didn't work out. I was a fairly light drinker, but sure knew how to dance and have fun!
I met my wife thru a personal ad that I placed in a local magazine. She went to church sometimes and, after we met, I went with her.......no problem. Even wife and I have made comments that the reason we don't make friends at church is because we like to have "fun" at times. Play some Poker, have a couple of beers/snacks and watch a Classic Rock DVD.
BTW there are many men who don't want a docile submissive wife, rather an equal. You may want to consider looking in places where men and women are treated the same.
What Christian men in church? All the men in church are already married--I've been attending the Southern Baptist denomination and there's hardly any single christian men who attend.
What Christian men in church? All the men in church are already married--I've been attending the Southern Baptist denomination and there's hardly any single christian men who attend.
Thats because most single men never go to church. Men only go to church after they get married because the wives make them go. They fear that if they dont go, they'll hear the wife's nag nag nagging and they fear she may withhold sex for a while.
Next time, look at those men and tell us if they TRULY look happy to be there. I betcha more than half of them wish they were somewhere else.
You'll still see a great drop off in male attendance from September to January which is FOOTBALL SEASON!!!
My DH is one of the best out there, he has his own beliefs but doesn't feel the need to attend church to prove it. I am a life long atheist. And we are happily child-free.
But thank you for your concern.
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