I think my 53 yr old BF uses viagra.. (date, guys, loving)

[Lindsey_Mcfarren]

Originally Posted by MissLucky

Not that I'm bothered, but I would like him to tell me and I know he won't.

I have never seen him pop a pill, but at 53, he has much more sexual energy than most guys I have ever dated. He's the oldest man I have ever dated and is 23 years older than me. He wants to have sex almost daily/constantly, but the problem is he rarely ejaculates.

Aren't these the signs of someone who uses viagra?

He might also be getting supplemental testosterone.
What you need to be concerned about is how they are delivering it too him. If he gets it in a shot then YOU are safe but my Uncle gets it in a rub he puts on his belly, he can't hug his wife once he has put it on because its absorbed through the skin.

I dated an older man once, I wondered why he was SO driven to have sex with me, (which I did not do), he was also agressive at times. I found out later he got a shot of testorone every couple weeks I think it was.

[Whyte Byrd]

I know a guy who's 54 and has the same energy he did at 21 and he doesn't take anything. He can't. But he doesn't have an orgasm every time either, if that's what you meant. That wouldn't bother me b'c that's how it's always been for me, too and I let him know b'c I'm not a faker. There's so much more to it than having an orgasm, as it should be.

[WhyShouldIWorry]

Originally Posted by samston

If he does, so what?

He could turn blue at an inopportune time. So embarrassing!

[akck]

Originally Posted by WhyShouldIWorry

He could turn blue at an inopportune time. So embarrassing!

For a second there, I thought someone slipped me a viagra. Alas, I just kicked the video cord and that what turned my screen a shade of blue.

[BacktoNE]

My DH is 50 and shows no signs of slowing down, and the last thing he needs is Viagra/Cialis. If anything, the anti-Viagra would be good some days.

Just ran your "problem" by DH. He wonders if your bf may be experiencing decreased sensation? Have you tried KY Yours & Mine? Or when you perform oral sex on him, maybe get a little more teeth action to see how he responds.

[MissLucky]

Hey guys, thanks so much for your responses! Took some advice I got here combined with few tricks of my own, and guess what, he orgasmed twice in a row last nite! I'm a happy gal, hehe.

[RobE]

Originally Posted by MissLucky

Not that I'm bothered, but I would like him to tell me and I know he won't.

I have never seen him pop a pill, but at 53, he has much more sexual energy than most guys I have ever dated. He's the oldest man I have ever dated and is 23 years older than me. He wants to have sex almost daily/constantly, but the problem is he rarely ejaculates.

Aren't these the signs of someone who uses viagra?

Yes and No. I'm just about the same age as your boyfriend and I can still have it everyday (though it takes a little more work to get the hydraulics working, if you know what I mean), but I can only basically ejaculate if I use my hand because I no longer have the kind of sensitivity I used to.

The only thing I would be concerned about with Viagra is its effect on his heart. Has he had a check up recently? Otherwise, just flat out tell him that you don't care if he uses that drug because you love him.

[WyoNewk]

Originally Posted by MissLucky

Not that I'm bothered, but I would like him to tell me and I know he won't.

I have never seen him pop a pill, but at 53, he has much more sexual energy than most guys I have ever dated. He's the oldest man I have ever dated and is 23 years older than me. He wants to have sex almost daily/constantly, but the problem is he rarely ejaculates.

Aren't these the signs of someone who uses viagra?

I'm not sure if you understand this or not, but many don't seem to get it: Viagra does not increase one's libido; it simply helps the blood flow to certain areas when stimulation calls for it.

Some men at age 53 still have very high sex drives. (I'd guess most men do.) But they're not 19-year-olds. Erections and orgasms both take a little longer to achieve. Both may be good up to a point, but only to a point.

Your guy sounds a little like me when I again became sexually active after several years of no sex. I was in my late 40s and eager for lovin several times a day, but I would rarely ejaculate more than once a day if that. Also, I could go for hours. (That was before Viagra was available, btw.) My wife had a little talk with me after a couple years and "we" decided to limit our romps to once each day. I wasn't thrilled with the idea, but, as usual, she was right. Everything worked as designed as long as it wasn't overworked.

As for guys not wanting to admit to using Viagra, sure. It points to a weakness in our virility. The last thing an older guy wants to admit to his much younger lover is that he needs a pill to function normally. Don't push it. He might be getting some help from a bottle, but if he is, so what? Lots of people take pills of one kind or another.

[sarahkate_m]

Originally Posted by MissLucky

Not that I'm bothered, but I would like him to tell me and I know he won't.

I have never seen him pop a pill, but at 53, he has much more sexual energy than most guys I have ever dated. He's the oldest man I have ever dated and is 23 years older than me. He wants to have sex almost daily/constantly, but the problem is he rarely ejaculates.

Aren't these the signs of someone who uses viagra?

if he's 53, he most LIKELY needs something like viagra. most men over 40 do. no big deal. men can have an orgasm with some flaccidity. there's variety to be experienced.

if you can't call him at home, he's married.

if he's married, you should just enjoy whatever happens & keep it simple. i guess.

hopefully you both had yourselves checked for std's before consumating your attraction.

if he told you that's just for homosexuals, he's a creep. use condoms & beware of oral with him, if he won't get tested. no excuse is acceptable.

kate

[MissLucky]

Thanks, Kate.

We live together.