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My aunt and her daughter (my cousin) moved all the way across the country when she was in grade school. It wasn't a major city or anything, yet who did she meet in her 20's where they lived? Someone who grew up a block away from her in the city and state where she was born and they ended up getting married and having kids.
A colleague was having absolutely no luck meeting nice guys when she lived here. She wanted her happily ever after and saw her chances fading with each passing year. She was extremely frustrated and decided to change her life. She did her research, found that Colorado had a better male/female ratio, went there and interviewed for jobs, got one, quit her job here, moved, and her dating life did a 180. She had her pick of nice guys. She's now very happily married and has a child. It was really amazing how well this worked for her.
I relocated a lot during my dating years. I never had a problem meeting anyone because I was always out there. I would volunteer, go to local type bars by myself (and I am female) and even took up new hobbies such as skiing, martial arts and hiking as a way to meet people.
I decided one day to move back home as I think I reached a point in my life where I was at a crossroads with my career and found that I actually missed Alabama. So I packed up and moved back home and met my husband and now have children.
I don't think it was home town advantage as I met my husband through a billards league.
If you want to meet someone, you have to leave your house/apt/condo. I can't tell you how many single friends I have that sit and complain and do nothing on the weekends because they haven't a date. Screw that! Find something you like to do that brings you into contact with other people.
If you want to meet someone, you have to leave your house/apt/condo. I can't tell you how many single friends I have that sit and complain and do nothing on the weekends because they haven't a date. Screw that! Find something you like to do that brings you into contact with other people.
And a rather inexpensive way to do this is volunteer work for something you are passionate about.
Another thing I've recommended for people who move somewhere new and alone is to give to a charity of choice and your information will end up with every charity in town and you end up getting invitations to all kinds of events which you can attend alone without notice. (Of course, you run the risk of pledge phone calls - but it hasn't been a problem for anyone I know yet)
I'm looking to move back to CA in July next year. A lot of people say its a hard place to meet people in general. I lived in LA for a year and in that area it was true..but eventually I made a few friends. I think outside of LA, it has to be easier socially. whenever I would go to San Diego, it was a world of difference and strangers would strike up conversations with me like I was a good old friend. Very small town welcoming feel there.
I know that with dating, the more your social life is going, the easier that will come so making good friends is just as important to me, anywhere I live. Of course it also helps if its a place you enjoy!
Thursday-the charity thing sounds like a good idea as long as I wouldn't get pledge calls. I might have to try that when I move.
i'm in LA right now and trust me its definitely alot harder for guys to meet women than vice versa. all of my female friends, even the not-so-hot ones, have plenty of guys lined up for dates, whereas most or all of my guy friends, even the ones that many women would consider a "catch" (well to do, good looking, etc, etc) are lucky to get one date a month....
i'm in LA right now and trust me its definitely alot harder for guys to meet women than vice versa. all of my female friends, even the not-so-hot ones, have plenty of guys lined up for dates, whereas most or all of my guy friends, even the ones that many women would consider a "catch" (well to do, good looking, etc, etc) are lucky to get one date a month....
I think one date a month is pretty good, unless its with the same person and its that rare..
I don't have that much time to date..but I'd make time to date more often with the same person if I liked him. that's besides the point though. I didnt' notice the higher male to female ratio in LA, although I was extremely busy so that might explain it. Seems that the west coast has a higher ratio of male to females in general, interesting.
I've been pretty much everywhere north of Florida and east of New Mexico, and to be honest, it's always been the same - it's only as good as you make it.
I don't think it has anything to do with where you live, but more to do with how you live.
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