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If an arguement starts, I walk away as opposed to trying to get the last word. I'd rather let him have the last word and leave him hanging without a response.
If an arguement starts, I walk away as opposed to trying to get the last word. I'd rather let him have the last word and leave him hanging without a response.
I'm a woman, and I never have to have the last word in an argument. Instead I just smile sweetly, silently dripping sarcasm, until the other party goes nuts. It just works better for me.
Now, I think we've said all that can be said. This thread should be closed.
Only someone who knows they are wrong would resort to this.
in over 50 years of living, in all truthfulness this has never even appeared on my radar, for men or for women. Guess what? Some people simply don't play that game because there are healthier ways to communicate
if it's something that bugs you, than it's probably because you have a vested interest in it yourself, as in it matters to you because you are into one upmanship yourself. if you weren't "keeping score" yourself, then you wouldn't even notice. Like a friend of mine says, "You spot it, you got it."
coolhand says it so well.....
When I talk about an "argument", I am not talking about yelling at each other. But a disagreement on a something.
Are you telling me it is a healthier way to deal with a disagreement, other then putting forward a bunch of arguments to make your case?
"You spot it, you got it." Yes, I'm sure that's how it works in the real world.
When I talk about an "argument", I am not talking about yelling at each other. But a disagreement on a something.
Are you telling me it is a healthier way to deal with a disagreement, other then putting forward a bunch of arguments to make your case?
"You spot it, you got it." Yes, I'm sure that's how it works in the real world.
Why does one need to 'make their case'? It's enough that DH and I respect each other, even when we disagree. There just isn't a need to make a case or have the last word. Will the other person be swayed by your arguments? Will it lead to some agreement or consensus? Usually not. If you need to make a case with a bunch of arguments then it's probably a pointless effort and you are wasting your time trying (whether it be a spouse, friend, coworker, etc). They might say, "OK, you are right." or "Fine, we'll do it your way." but they're only talking, not believing.
“Those convinced against their will are of the same opinion still.” Dale Carnegie
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Originally Posted by TKramar
Refusal to enter into conflict with someone is the best response.
This is true but soooooo frustrating to be the other person in the 'discussion', lol.
Less frustrating than verbally attacking them...even if you're only attacking their position, some people take it very personally.
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