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Ok, i thought that as long as you didn't live in your mom's basement and was on your own that was fine. So living in a apartment is not acceptable in your 30's??_lol Are you kiddin me???
I have had 2 different woman ask me when do I plan to buy a house?? Or why am I not already in a house??
Ok everybody, I'm done, it's clear that I don't qualify for a relationship because women want you now in this SHAKY economy to have a HOUSE???
I mean Come on!
You are 34. You think it's ODD that anyone your age would own a home? You aren't a kid anymore
One size does not fit all, and each person in the dating pool has a different set of attributes and expectations. Some women want a stable guy with a white picket fence so they can settle down and have their 2.5 children. Some women don't even want kids ever, and ar eonly looking for a guy to provide companionship. Some guys want to be a "cub" to a cougar, and have her take the lead financially and otherwise. Some guys want a submissive little foreigner wife who will do all his bidding with a smile on her face.
In my personal point of view, if you don't bring it, you can't expect it either. This is not always the case, as we know, many times a wealthy man will marry a hat check girl or a Britney marries a K-Fed. It's the same thing if a fat, short, balding middle aged unattractive male had his sights set on a 6 ft knockout with curves like Jessica Rabbit. If a woman is eeking by paycheck to paycheck and living in a rental, it really isn't realistic to expect her potential partner to be Donald Trump. Some women can try and sometimes do catch the brass ring. It usally means they actually do look like Jessica Rabbit. But for the general population, I don't think it is right to expect a potential partner to provide you with a life you have in mind - you should be busy with trying to provide it for yourself instead. That goes for men and women alike as far as I'm concerned.
I agree with most of what you said! Bravo for your openmindedness!
"Some guys want a submissive little foreigner wife who will do all his bidding with a smile on her face"
This is a little off IMO, they want a submissive wife to some point but really want a true equal as well she knows he's the Man and She's the feminine Woman and acts like a lady and wife to look after his interests as he does for her as well with unlimited Love between them and resolves all problems, etc, etc, etc, as a marriage and being part of each other ought to be.
IMO: This isn't too much the case these days as it's more like no better than glorified stranger roommates in a matter of speaking.
What we have are people with different ideas and lifestyles they expect and they'll defend to the end, hence the in this thread and others.
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Ok, i thought that as long as you didn't live in your mom's basement and was on your own that was fine. So living in a apartment is not acceptable in your 30's??_lol Are you kiddin me???
I have had 2 different woman ask me when do I plan to buy a house?? Or why am I not already in a house??
Ok everybody, I'm done, it's clear that I don't qualify for a relationship because women want you now in this SHAKY economy to have a HOUSE???
I mean Come on!
Dude you are 6ft 6 and growing!! What else could she want? Dam the torpedoes. Full speed ahead
Funnnnny! Not really, I don't mean you but in my case if I were to be asked questions that would be more like for her selfish reasons in which more scrutiny would occur later I would.
And like TVSG, you'd be guilty of making assumptions. If someone asks me why I haven't bought a house yet, I address that question and wait to see if and how she follows up. If my answer is satisfactory, then she won't dig deeper. If, on the other hand, she starts asking how much I spend on other things, what I make per month, how much I save, etc., then of course I won't take kindly to that. But until she starts digging deeper, you have no idea what her motives are for asking that initial question. Maybe she is a golddigger looking for a guy with money. Or maybe she's just curious why you continue to rent. Not every question has a hidden meaning or implies an agenda.
And like TVSG, you'd be guilty of making assumptions. If someone asks me why I haven't bought a house yet, I address that question and wait to see if and how she follows up. If my answer is satisfactory, then she won't dig deeper. If, on the other hand, she starts asking how much I spend on other things, what I make per month, how much I save, etc., then of course I won't take kindly to that. But until she starts digging deeper, you have no idea what her motives are for asking that initial question. Maybe she is a golddigger looking for a guy with money. Or maybe she's just curious why you continue to rent. Not every question has a hidden meaning or implies an agenda.
Agreed!
I guess that would depend on the questions following and her intentions doesn't it?
I gotta stop posting too fast as my posts aren't clear enough doing so - I apologize.
Trouble still is that if in Co-Habitation or Marriage all that possible fallout with odds against me that I've posted in many other threads still enters my picture which is never ever ignored. Sure, not all females are out to get a Man for his wealth to begin with, but has odds against me that she'll opt out.
If a female asks you questions which you determine are based solely upon her need to know whether you have anything of any monetary value which might benefit her, you're not interested.
If you don't make that determination right away, continue to see her and she persists in asking the same sort of questions, no go.
That said, you're not interested in a relationship with a woman anyway since you find the company of your friends more than sufficient.
I guess that would depend on the questions following and her intentions doesn't it?
I gotta stop posting too fast as my posts aren't clear enough doing so - I apologize.
Trouble still is that if in Co-Habitation or Marriage all that possible fallout with odds against me that I've posted in many other threads still enters my picture which is never ever ignored. Sure, not all females are out to get a Man for his wealth to begin with, but has odds against me that she'll opt out.
Are you related to TVSG? Just wondered, as you randomly capitalize the first letter of some words just as he does.
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