"alone time" with adult content issues (social, responsible, pictures)
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See..now I think he should of f-ed those wenches and got it out of his system before he met me.
Fantasy life is for children in my book
The term "play complexes the mind" comes to my thoughts about that. Fantasy is for children? I don't think so. Everyone has fantasy (I hope). Otherwise we live a dull life. I have heard Stairway to Heaven a zillion times, just hearing it on the radio while driving does nothing for me. However I often get my imagination into a swing while as the song plays I imagine I'm on stage playing it.
Call it escape, stress relief, fantasy, twisting something common to be newer again or just call me wacked whatever but besides love the greatest thing mankind has going is fantasy. The difference is enjoying fantasy and making it real too.
Now on sex maybe better to just keep it fantasy depending, but if my girl wants some solo time with a toy or porn fine. I have no problem with that for her to have a change of pace sometimes but when she starts making fantasy real by other real guys via internet or "girls night out" well then that is a whole different matter.
But anyway I'm a person who tends to be in my own mind alot so maybe some people are different and just don't need to use their mind for fantasy as much.
I never said anything was wrong with both partners enjoying porn together if they like it. What is wrong is for one to masturbate with porn somewhere alone in the house while the other is home, too. There was some movie in which a guy was "retreating" after dinner to his woodwork shop to spend time on his "hobby"... The rhythm of the woodwork was quite memorable! I think it was Swedish... They tend to make sick movies.
When you get the urge, you got to satisfy it. Besides, it's not "wrong" if the partner was okay with it Some people want some solo action. What's wrong with that? It's like a spouse asking for some solo time shopping or painting or whatever.
However, I do think that we cannot say for sure that your sexuality will match your partner's sexuality. That is not an opinion, THAT is a fact. Even when 2 people are sexually comparible, one of them will always be slightly more sexual then the other. One of them needs more sex and more variety EVEN if their sex life is good and fulfilling. That's why communication is the key and unrealistic expectations can ruin everything. If this is something that a partner physically needs to satisfy curiousity, it's hard to deny it.
Some people have rich enough imagination not to use porn, some people need a little help of porn.
I think that we can never predict what will happen down the road in a marriage. Some women get so wild after a certain age, they need certain stimulation. Some men get just as wild. It doesn't mean they don't love their partners, it doesn't meant that their partners don't satisfy them, what it means that they need something a little extra to satisfy natural urges.
Human body and mind is such a twisted thing. It plays games with you, you really NEVER know how things will turn out after years of living with someone. There needs to be room for adjustment and in OP's case it seems as she understands this and takes matters into her hands.
You said it! Thats why I advocate the "try it before you buy it" way of living.
I do believe that wild-ness comes from past repressed desired. I like variety myself but that get shut down in a relationship. Its just a matter of respect.
I have many natural urges I cut down everyday. I don't see how sex is much different.
When you get the urge, you got to satisfy it. Besides, it's not "wrong" if the partner was okay with it Some people want some solo action. What's wrong with that? It's like a spouse asking for some solo time shopping or painting or whatever.
Oh, sorry. Did I forget to mention I'm talking about my view again?!
You said it! Thats why I advocate the "try it before you buy it" way of living.
I do believe that wild-ness comes from past repressed desired. I like variety myself but that get shut down in a relationship. Its just a matter of respect.
I have many natural urges I cut down everyday. I don't see how sex is much different.
Sexual urge for some people is the strongest urge there is.
When you get the urge, you got to satisfy it. Besides, it's not "wrong" if the partner was okay with it Some people want some solo action. What's wrong with that? It's like a spouse asking for some solo time shopping or painting or whatever.
I can shop with friends, and paint in a crowd. No comparison to me.
The term "play complexes the mind" comes to my thoughts about that. Fantasy is for children? I don't think so. Everyone has fantasy (I hope). Otherwise we live a dull life. I have heard Stairway to Heaven a zillion times, just hearing it on the radio while driving does nothing for me. However I often get my imagination into a swing while as the song plays I imagine I'm on stage playing it.
Call it escape, stress relief, fantasy, twisting something common to be newer again or just call me wacked whatever but besides love the greatest thing mankind has going is fantasy. The difference is enjoying fantasy and making it real too.
Now on sex maybe better to just keep it fantasy depending, but if my girl wants some solo time with a toy or porn fine. I have no problem with that for her to have a change of pace sometimes but when she starts making fantasy real by other real guys via internet or "girls night out" well then that is a whole different matter.
But anyway I'm a person who tends to be in my own mind alot so maybe some people are different and just don't need to use their mind for fantasy as much.
See..i gues that is where we are different. I hear "just like heaven" every time. And get feelings for it everytime. And I think there are so many more fun fantasy things than doing it. If that is your true fantasy...why not live it?
Why burden someone with a half satisfied self?
Sexual urge for some people is the strongest urge there is.
I read a study on this..its food and the sex. I think thats funny for some reason. But again...i can control myself so I expect the same from whoever i accept in those types of relations that are of the more serious nature.
Sexual urge for some people is the strongest urge there is.
Guess so... Cases like the jerk who had nothing better to do but to grab the nurse's boobs right after having a baby (or the one masturbating next to his wife who just gave birth) disgust me, quite frankly. Wouldn't touch either one of these specimens (can't call them men) if they were the last male species left on the face of the Earth! There have to be some other thoughts and feelings in people's heads!
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The rhythm of the woodwork was quite memorable!
I think it was Swedish... They tend to make sick movies.
Some people want some solo action. What's wrong with that? It's like a spouse asking for some solo time shopping or painting or whatever.
