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Why is it that the nice guys are always the second or third option for women? You would think that a person with most of the qualities that women preach about would be the first choice, it never happens like that. Can a woman explain this to me?
Why is it that the nice guys are always the second or third option for women? You would think that a person with most of the qualities that women preach about would be the first choice, it never happens like that. Can a woman explain this to me?
In short - you're wrong
Your use of "always" and "never" are pretty strong there, fella. Billions of women in this world, can't lump 'em all into one category. Not all women are looking for a bad boy. Not all women will bypass a nice guy. Sheesh.
I'm sure you'll never find the answer to your question ... people have been asking the same thing about both men and women for eons.
"Nice guys" are seen by many young women as clingy little weenies. And let's face it, a good number of them are. And many of those women end up getting burned enough times by pretty-boy jerks or ruggedly handsome jerks or both that they eventually figure out it's worth the effort to sort out the "non-weenie" nice guys from the weenies. Best I can tell, they most commonly figure it out by their mid to late 20s.
Yeah but how long does it take for them to come to their senses?
Some of them never do. They'll spend their whole lives going from one failed relationship to another, always looking for the same kind of guy who has hurt them in the past. It's like they become addicted to the pain.
For others? It's often after more than one episode of being rode hard and put up wet. By the time many of them realize their lives are going nowhere in a hurry, they've saddled themselves with so much extra baggage, like kids and psychological numbing, that they find themselves unattractive to the keepers.
For you, Mr. Nice Guy, the question becomes just how much of that baggage are you willing to take on? Are you willing to raise another man's kids like your own? Are you willing to spend years breaking down those defensive barriers she's built around herself?
Unless you get really, really lucky and find one right out of the box, that's what you're up against.
I blame my good christian upbringing for this nice guy attitude!
(just joking)
Stick with that and you'll be fine.
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