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As far as the holiday, yeah being single sucks then, I went through a self pitty "I'll never find the woman of my dreams" tatrum of depression Sunday, but eh it went away and I feel better now. Honestly my criteria has alot to do with hers looks and body besides everything else so I reap what I sow.
The new and improved long distant relationship is amazing.
They can talk all the time via teleconferences. They can use electronic toys in place of real "fore-play". What more could a human being want? j/k
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Originally Posted by Twinkle Toes
Nala, you seem like a nice person. I wish I could set you up with my brother! He seems to get hung up on losers and I don't know why. He truly is a wonderful person with a lot to offer the right gal. But, he's in CA.
Hey- I had a talk with my brother and finally got through to him. It turns out I have nothing to worry about. He isn't interested in that gal who's trying to rope him into marriage. In fact - he doesn't even want to go out with her but is afraid of hurting her feelings! So, like a good big sister ... I am in rescue mode!
I know two people who wonder this about themselves. I love them dearly, but they are boring, rigid people...who make little effort with their physical appearance. But they don't see that.
There is another person I know who is really a neat, sweet, smart, kind, cute person. I think her problem is availability of suitable partners in her area. It's a shame. What a waste.
Being more available is definitely something I am working on in my own life. I love my work--both my paid work and my artistic work--so much that at times I feel that my life would be a big gaping hole of nothingness if I made more time for socializing. I know that's not real. I was recently asked out by a new "friend" (with romantic potential). Something to think about.
As far as the holiday, yeah being single sucks then, I went through a self pitty "I'll never find the woman of my dreams" tatrum of depression Sunday, but eh it went away and I feel better now. Honestly my criteria has alot to do with hers looks and body besides everything else so I reap what I sow.
Great. Mine went away too, thank goodness. But some people (you know who you are) just will not let me move on. Darn these threads, sometimes. They just go on and on and on and on, even when the problems have been resolved. Jeez.
I hear you. I know I'm not absolutely "normal", I don't know many who are. But I see people with far more issues, quirks, bad habits etc. that have mates who apparently love them. Why not me? Don't know for sure. But I suspect part of it is that I feel reluctant somehow to foist my flaws, even though not all that big, on someone else. I guess that would add up to a self-esteem issue don't know. But even then, surely there are those out there will self-esteem issues who are happily mated....so back where I started, why not me?
For you perhaps, just the realization you want a mate may change things for you?
Well, at least I am "dating" again, and learning again to live in the moment. It looks like the availability thing is the issue. Seems as though all I have to do is let certain people know that I am available and that I am interested. Go figure.
Being more available is definitely something I am working on in my own life. I love my work--both my paid work and my artistic work--so much that at times I feel that my life would be a big gaping hole of nothingness if I made more time for socializing. I know that's not real. I was recently asked out by a new "friend" (with romantic potential). Something to think about.
Rigid and boring. Nah... lol (If you only knew.)
Yeah, the second cool friend I told you about also does not have realistic ideas of availability and has already pigeon-holed herself in terms of moving, pets, etc.
I'm like, "Yeah...you're so awash with great offers that you can afford to become isolationist and inflexible about your location, etc."
I'll tell you what. My wife had just bought a house and we lived in different cities. She sold it and moved here asap. Saw what she wanted and went with it.
Yeah, the second cool friend I told you about also does not have realistic ideas of availability and has already pigeon-holed herself in terms of moving, pets, etc.
I'm like, "Yeah...you're so awash with great offers that you can afford to become isolationist and inflexible about your location, etc."
I'll tell you what. My wife had just bought a house and we lived in different cities. She sold it and moved here asap. Saw what she wanted and went with it.
Dude, I said I was working on it. I moved all the way from NYC back to Madison, WI in August to change my life and my errant ways. I am downshifting. No need to further rub it in. I get it. I have to make time for the people and potential people in my life. I also have to let them know, apparently. People still seem to assume that my schedule is all locked up. Anyone who knows me knows that even though I am not the kind of person to sit around waiting for life to happen, I am just one phone call or email message away, and my weekends are free. It's the new people (or people who have been hurt a lot) who seem to think they have no chance with me. As for the creation of a viable romantic and social life, so far, so good. Be cool. It's a process.
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