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Maybe the problem with your sex life stems from the fact that you sleep in a separate room from your wife due to your snoring? From one of your previous threads:
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Originally Posted by Stranded and Lonely
My wife and I have started sleeping in separate rooms since I have started waking up with a start at 4:30 AM and snoring. It is just not practical for both of us to sleep together if we are going to cause the other insomnia.
Though when friends and relatives find out we are sleeping apart we get lots of grief.
Back in the day, if you talk to alot of "old school grandmas", they say that they would "knock boots" with their husbands atleast once or twice a day. MY grandma would tell my aunts, "give it to your husband as many times as he wants and whenever he wants, so he wont have the urge to try to get it somewhere else!" Dont you think its a coincidence, that marriages lasted longer then, that their wasnt as much cheating as now. Bottom line, cheating on a guys part 90% of the time takes place because their not getting any at home! Sex is very important to males. It is physical for the most part, but its also somewhat emotional, because when our wifes make love to us on a frequent basis, we feel wanted, desirable, handsome, attractive, so if you want to have a happy marriage, ladys give it up!
Back in the day, if you talk to alot of "old school grandmas", they say that they would "knock boots" with their husbands atleast once or twice a day. MY grandma would tell my aunts, "give it to your husband as many times as he wants and whenever he wants, so he wont have the urge to try to get it somewhere else!" Dont you think its a coincidence, that marriages lasted longer then, that their wasnt as much cheating as now. Bottom line, cheating on a guys part 90% of the time takes place because their not getting any at home! Sex is very important to males. It is physical for the most part, but its also somewhat emotional, because when our wifes make love to us on a frequent basis, we feel wanted, desirable, handsome, attractive, so if you want to have a happy marriage, ladys give it up!
at the heart of the mexican marriage is respect for the man.
even when it is not merited. it goes from that respect by the woman to the children. sex is an obligation of marriage. its like eating-- its not 2 times a week. i didnt say the food and the sex were great-- im saying it was an obligation. he has got them too. mexican marriage failure is a fraction of ours. if i could make one statement bout the american household, it would be the numbing lack of respect in the house.
Maybe the problem with your sex life stems from the fact that you sleep in a separate room from your wife due to your snoring? From one of your previous threads:
BIG round of applause - Kudos for your observation and post!!!
at the heart of the mexican marriage is respect for the man.
even when it is not merited. it goes from that respect by the woman to the children. sex is an obligation of marriage. its like eating-- its not 2 times a week. i didnt say the food and the sex were great-- im saying it was an obligation. he has got them too. mexican marriage failure is a fraction of ours. if i could make one statement bout the american household, it would be the numbing lack of respect in the house.
This is a HUGE part of why marriage in this country is a freaking JOKE for the most part. It is not only in Mexican culture where sex is an obligation of marriage. In Islam, the wife is supposed to give it up unless she is not feeling well or sick, the whole idea of not having sex because she wants to punish the husband or simply does not feel like it is a recipe for disaster.
Yes. From a Biblical perspective, husbands and wives have an obligation to satisfy each other sexually. They may abstain "for a while" for the purposes of "prayer and fasting" but otherwise should have sex regularly as it mirrors the sacred bond that God has with us.
If you're not a Christian, you still have an obligation to satisfy your wife. If you have emotional hang ups, please get counseling for your sake and hers. If you have a physical problem, there are drugs to address it.
If you love your wife, you will want to make sure she's happy and satisfied.
...you still have an obligation to satisfy your wife.
This is interesting, and something that has been reverberated by other posters. Somehow, there is this notion that the man is obligated to satisfy the woman, yet, if it was the man who claims that the woman has an obligation to satisfy him, well, jeez louise, you better believe that more than a few woman would be uproarious over such a suggestion.
From your name and feelings on it OP you could be depressed and just feeling that way. You don't have to be a maniac but you should not feel shameful/dirty feelings. I would talk to a therapist about that. Whatever is causing that in your life will bleed into other areas too.
Everyone has different drives. I think its idiotic to think you can order it up like its a sandwich or something. Thats insane and cheapens the whole deal. If whoever wants some they should DO something themselves to get the party started to speak. Adults have an obligation to grow up and accept that they are not always going to be satisfied with every little thing all the time.
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