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Cleaning is almost always the responsibility of the one who is more obsessed about it. One's a "neat freak" and the other's a "slob". Gender doesn't matter.
1. Polished the the chrome bust of my paternal ancestor Gustav the third.
2. Collected dust mite sample and drove it to the lab.
3. Conducted optical efficiency test to gauge windows for ambient light utilization and optimized with Windex.
4. Designed indexing system for packed boxes in the attic and tuned the access frequency algorithm according to access records. The Christmas stuff was moved to the infrequency accessed zone and canning equipment was primed.
5. Home grown, organic hamster feed not within calcium requirement specs. Reformulating.....
How would you like to come home from work and try to crack open a beer on the sofa with someone like that around?
Bless her, I love her, but my girlfriend can be so anal about things!
This could be my future.
Her dad's like that, so she might get worse as she ages.
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Originally Posted by gwynedd1
1. Polished the the chrome bust of my paternal ancestor Gustav the third.
2. Collected dust mite sample and drove it to the lab.
3. Conducted optical efficiency test to gauge windows for ambient light utilization and optimized with Windex.
4. Designed indexing system for packed boxes in the attic and tuned the access frequency algorithm according to access records. The Christmas stuff was moved to the infrequency accessed zone and canning equipment was primed.
5. Home grown, organic hamster feed not within calcium requirement specs. Reformulating.....
How would you like to come home from work and try to crack open a beer on the sofa with someone like that around?
The house work vs outside work as it applies to gender, including the older days, is often mis-stated. Sure, the old fashion domestic wife would attend to much of the inside cleaning, child raising, and cooking but men would spend their weekend doing discipline, yard work, car repair, and repairing things around the house.
You never hear about the latter part though when many women complain that men don't do their "fair share." Many men both then and now do in fact do their fair share, it's just a different (and more dangerous) one.
I dont know what you mean by weekend discipline (is that a euphemism for something else ) Anyway, just want to point out that yard work, car and home repair are things that are not done on a daily basis or even a weekly/monthly basis.
Yes I think he should clean up after himself when he makes "direct" messes. Laundry, dishes, regular household chores are the job of the person who works significantly less. NOT the female, just the person who has less hours at a job. Seems fair to me.
I dont know what you mean by weekend discipline (is that a euphemism for something else ) Anyway, just want to point out that yard work, car and home repair are things that are not done on a daily basis or even a weekly/monthly basis.
Depends on where you live. In Illinois, we had four seasons. Part of spring, you were mowing the yard. We had a "nut-buster" too. You also had the planting of the garden to do, since everything died during the winter. Summer, you mowed the grass every week, and it grew fast enough you could do it twice a week, plus you had the weeding of the garden to do. Come fall, you had leaves to rake, and still weeding those gardens. When winter came, you had to clear the sidewalks and driveway of the home--and if you were "lucky" enough to have a gravel driveway, you had a LOT of fun trying to clear it of snow.
Additionally, you would get little "projects" to do throughout the year. Maybe she wanted some bookshelves built in the living room. Maybe she wanted all the furniture rearranged--you think she was going to lift the couch or the mattresses? Or flipping them every three to four months--who got THAT job?
Deja Vu Again[/b];13511240]If hemakes a sandwich, I clean it up. Get the picture?
I plan on heading back to work when the renovations are done.
So, since I have never been in a traditional role type relationship, is thisnormal?
When he makes a sandwich do you run behind him to clean up right away without saying a word ( that means you claim it as your responsibility)....or does he leave the mess for you to clean up (kind of like it's beneath him and strictly your role).
Ever thought about just leaving the mess and not cleaning up
I dont know what you mean by weekend discipline (is that a euphemism for something else ) Anyway, just want to point out that yard work, car and home repair are things that are not done on a daily basis or even a weekly/monthly basis.
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Originally Posted by TKramar
Depends on where you live. In Illinois, we had four seasons. Part of spring, you were mowing the yard. We had a "nut-buster" too. You also had the planting of the garden to do, since everything died during the winter. Summer, you mowed the grass every week, and it grew fast enough you could do it twice a week, plus you had the weeding of the garden to do. Come fall, you had leaves to rake, and still weeding those gardens. When winter came, you had to clear the sidewalks and driveway of the home--and if you were "lucky" enough to have a gravel driveway, you had a LOT of fun trying to clear it of snow.
This is true. We live in Illinois, and you are right. We don't even water our grass, and it grows like crazy during the summer. Weekend mowing almost isn't enough; my husband will mow twice some weeks. Two or three days after you mow, it looks shaggy and unkempt again.
And the raking ... egads.
I do agree that the type of work may not balance, though. Two hours a day of housework (cooking, cleaning, laundry, getting the kids ready for school) is easily achieved, but 14 hours of yardwork? Probably not. And tinkering around on your hobby car doesn't count.
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) Anyway, just want to point out that yard work, car and home repair are things that are not done on a daily basis or even a weekly/monthly basis.
