Random Thoughts on a Rude Neighbor (Napa, Poway: city hall, renter, house)

[JanND]

Originally Posted by jwblue

It is so funny because the biggest trouble makers in our neighborhood are two old women that are sisters.

Old people cause so many problems. They get a free pass because they are old.

I wonder if this is a normal part of aging to become annoying when turning old. It sure seems that way.

No....most of us old people are sweet and demure....dammit....lol

[jwblue]

Originally Posted by JanND

No....most of us old people are sweet and demure....dammit....lol

Present company excluded.

[cully]

I wonder if you bought your house from original owners. My friends had an experience where three sets of original owners, all late 60s/early 70s, would get together on the middle one's porch in the early evening for drinks. It was a regular thing. They'd go out to dinner together too. Two of them even had a path between houses and a little garden decoration sign that said something about welcome neighbor.

Well, that middle neighbor didn't have the allegiance the others did to stay there forever. He moved. The neighbor on one side was friendly to the new neighbors. The ones on the other side were not. But my friends didn't actually think anything of it. Some neighbors aren't all over each other.

My friends went about doing the yard work. For one thing they wondered why a certain stip was not landscaped...then realized it was the path to the neighbor's house. The husband pulled up the welcome neighbor sign along with the other yard knick knacks the previous owners left. (His wife felt this might be a mistake right there.)

Those neighbors got less and less friendly.

Turns out, as someone said here, the friendly neighbor and his wife had many outside interests and the husband still worked in his specialty on occasion.

The other couple had interests and charity work but on a lesser scale and seemed to have counted on the previous owner of my friend's house for their entertainment. They seemed to sorely miss their evenings on that porch.

To tell you the truth, they may have even been a little heartbroken. Maybe not only about their friends leaving them but about the state of their lives...getting older, etc. Everyone in it together in this new subdivision and now several scattered to other places. And difficult to make the adjustment at their ages. (Not the age in particular because others can adjust, just the case for them.)

Your 70 year old neighbor may have some of these issues. Grief can come out in odd ways, one being inappropriate anger. Another being some destruction. (My friend's neighbor would occasionally cut my friend's grass short or cut a few bushes... mild but there are stories of some doing much worse.)

Your neighbor may miss the former owner terribly. He may also have the beginning of dementia. He seems to be obsessive.

Like someone here said, he may treasure a friend. It may so turn him around, he'd sit in your driveway guarding it and brush it clean every day Let him switch his obsession.

That said, if the idea of reaching out to be friendly to him doesn't work...it is important to have no cars blocking your driveway in the event an emergency vehicle is needed. If extreme friendliness doesn't work you need to do something to unblock your driveway.

[1AngryTaxPayer]

Clean your weapons with the garage door up

[ShelbyGirl1]

Originally Posted by 1AngryTaxPayer

Clean your weapons with the garage door up

Thanks for the afternoon laugh! LOL....Might not be a bad idea!

[1AngryTaxPayer]

Originally Posted by ShelbyGirl1

Thanks for the afternoon laugh! LOL....Might not be a bad idea!

My neighbor rents and every once in a while they get a real @#$@#$. I time a trip to the range to when I know they will probably be outside and that is usually all it takes to get them to play nice.

[shmoov_groovzsd]

Originally Posted by ShelbyGirl1

Thanks for the afternoon laugh! LOL....Might not be a bad idea!

[ShelbyGirl1]

Coming from Texas....not so out of place

[1AngryTaxPayer]

Originally Posted by ShelbyGirl1

Coming from Texas....not so out of place

Yup, I'm from CO so same deal

[futbol]

A man here in Poway had a problem with people parking on the public street in front of his house. He would get irate if anyone used his driveway to turn around. He was known to have extreme temper problems.

One day his next door neighbor must have said something to set him off. He brought out multiple firearms and shot two of his neighbors in their own house. He was later killed by sheriff's deputies.

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