Seattle dating scene (single black male) (Vancouver, Bellevue: neighbourhood, moving, pool)

[stuckinseattle]

If you really want to date a black woman? Flights to SFO are cheap. Don't waste your time in SEATAC.

[green_mariner]

Originally Posted by stuckinseattle

If you really want to date a black woman? Flights to SFO are cheap. Don't waste your time in SEATAC.

I have no hang ups when it comes to interracial dating. If I get a chance to leave the Atlanta area, I'll take my chances with Seattle. I have lived in the area before, I'll do it again.

[stephei2000]

Originally Posted by PostJoyDivision

Well, I'm a black 20-something women and I just moved to the Capitol Hill/First Hill area and I mainly hangout here and DT. Dating here is pretty much what I expected it to be. I don't limit my dating pool to black men. However, there are definitely times when I wish that black men would approach me at the same rate as other men. Obviously, I know that the black population is relatively low, but when I make the effort to smile and say "Hello" to appealing black men, it's a little disappointing when I get nothing but a passing "Hello" or "How you doing?" or a faint smile or a mean mug or just completely ignored. I know what I look like, I may be not be a "Gabrielle Union" but I know that I'm attractive. The fact that other men have no problem approaching me let's me know that something's up. You know, maybe it does have something to do with what I look like. I'm a little on the short side and I'm thin. I have big kinky/curly hair, an afro that I wear down or pin up. I dress well, but not business-like or runway chic. I work full-time in health care lab and nothing about me screams "ghetto fab". I guess I need to step up my game.
But to answer the question: dating hasn't been hard for me, but it has been mostly dominated by a couple of markets. You'll have to be patient as well. I will say that I do notice more black men in the area where I live, but there are single black women like me all over the Seattle area wanting to date black men. Don't be afraid to approach us. If a black man approached me and actually wanted to talk to me, I would probably pass out.
Someone mentioned that there are two types of women in this area: ghetto and white-washed. Well, I'm neither of those that was pretty much an insult to women like me that live in Seattle. I'm looking forward to attending some meetups and other black-hosted events/venues to network and maybe get a few dates!

I am like you, but you are lucky. This sounds like a dream to me. Overall I am not attracted to African American men, but that is all the attention I get in Chicago except in Oak Park, IL which is like a very tiny Seattle in liberal attitude.
I went to Seattle and it feat that I was actually having a conversation with a white guy this was a mircale. If you are attractive and intelligent you are actually just seen as a person and not a ghetto stereotype. All you get here in Chicago is a excuse me, sorry if you almost bump into them at the store.
You are lucky. I eventually want to go back to Seattle to guy hunt. !

[Interpol76]

The Seattle dating scene? Hmmmm...I guess it depends on how you look at it. There are PLENTY of single people here and finding a date is very easy. But, seattleites are notorious relationship phobes. Finding anyone willing to go beyond a date or two or five is nearly impossible because people have so many options due to the enormous amount of singles/ flighty nature of people here.

[Anders15]

I can't believe this thread is still bumped. It all depends on your personality and her personality. I have no problem getting a girl of any race. It's all about how you approach things and your confidence. I don't buy into that "just because you're ___ that means you have to date ____"

I can date across all races because I have the confidence and if you don't the women can sense it a mile away. Go where you know where women with similar interests like you might be. If you're not a social person add them online and get to know each other online first. I neverrr go into a situation thinking "she is white/asian, nah she won't like me" go in there and be yourself it really is not that complicated.

Also try to be her friend first or actually get to know her.. I've seen so many idiots go to women and tell them they wants to "date" or be with her without knowing them for 2 minutes.. really?

[green_mariner]

I don't know what the dating scene is like in Seattle, as I've only lived there as a child, and not as an adult. I am what you call a non-stereotypical Black guy, college graduate, likes to dress preppy, and I'm actually open to interracial dating myself. I have heard that Seattle is one of the best cities in the USA for interracial dating. I've even mentioned it. I'm actually not hung up on race when it comes to dating, so I'm thinking Seattle might actually be good for me, at least compared to Atlanta.

[vicosal13]

I grew up in Los Angelos. I dated IR in LA but mainly dated other Latinos. My personal observations are that Seattle has got to be the absolute capital for white/black dating. I rarely saw it as a child/teen/adult in LA. ESPECIALLY between black/white.

I have a few IR stories from LA. My school was Filipino-black-Mexican and a few whites. I had a good friend who dated a black guy in 6th grade and I kid you not, the air could be cut with a knife. This in 1995!! When I say I rarely saw it I more or less mean I NEVER saw interracial relationships where one partner was black. It just did not happen. Whites-Latinos-Asians dated interracial with no qualms, but black IR was a serious NO-NO that would cause you to lose your friends.

Now as I grew up and hit the 2000s I begun seeing it more......but it still is not the norm. Imagine having 2 communities living side by side, school, work and not having any IR? That's how it was for Black-Mexicans.

I moved to Seattle about 3 years ago and have seen 20x more black-white relationships here in the last 3 years than I had ever seen in LA.

Seattle has got to be the most open city in America when it comes to that. Its been said before but as a first hand account it is completely true.

I have no choice in dating IR as Latinos in general are scarce. I will say that I have met more women here than my entire life in LA. So if you are well dressed and attractive ID say that you have your choice whom to date here.

Being black and dating is not something I can comment on specifically but as far as I can see, black males are seen as approachable and women of all colors wont have beefs dating you.

There aren't many black females out here...in Seattle. So get ready to broaden your horizons

[RunTheDistance476]

Blow my brains out.

[Hypestyle]

what kind of local hobby groups tend to be popular in seattle, for group outings? Something that doesn't automatically involve alcohol?

[League54]

Originally Posted by vicosal13

Seattle has got to be the most open city in America when it comes to that. Its been said before but as a first hand account it is completely true. black males are seen as approachable and women of all colors wont have beefs dating you.

I enjoy seeing diversity in the dating world.
Does the appeal come from Seattle having an abundance of black professionals ? Or are black men seen as exotic ?