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I just found out someone got a job after less than 2 interviews...hardly trying (less than a few weeks). I am so frustrated.
I just broke down and cried and had a bit fight w/my husband...
I really can't stand everyone else getting jobs but me. I usually get pretty upset...stupid...I mean I am happy for this person (I wrote her a wonderful reference letter) but still....
I just found out someone got a job after less than 2 interviews...hardly trying (less than a few weeks). I am so frustrated.
I just broke down and cried and had a bit fight w/my husband...
I really can't stand everyone else getting jobs but me. I usually get pretty upset...stupid...I mean I am happy for this person (I wrote her a wonderful reference letter) but still....
How do you guys handle the 'rejection?'
I think you are very courageous to be so honest! ;-)
Personally, I have known at least three people get jobs in the last month and three or four on this web site, who have reported that they got a job.
I am actually happy for them. I guess, because i feel pretty optimistic about my future as a paralegal. I also work as an intern everyday and received glowing references.
I'd only feel jealous if it was a job I wanted and new I should have gotten, but so far those people your referring to are getting jobs I have no interest in, so I'm fine with it.
I know how you feel. I have been looking for a job for the last month and a half and I haven't gotten a single call from ANYONE. And on the other hand, my friend who was also looking got a few different interviews and just accepted a job It sucks, but that is the way it is I guess.
Ok, I won't say the first word in the sentence that everyone does.
I'll just answer, if you've been unemployed for any amount of time, say, over a month, and you have bills, obligations, that you are having a hard time meeting, and you want to work, then naturally you will feel some jealousy, or envy is a better word.
We all want to be successful, we all have it driven into us from day one of school, go to school, to college, get a job, be a success, without a job, you're not a success, more over for the male, the females are being pushed into that realm of belief, but it's still a half and half situation. (I know a lot of females are going to come back quickly, but please read the post, I stated, 50/50, be real and honest, I am. That's why I didn't start out the thread with the stupid word, "Honestly?")
I mean, who wants someone to tell them a lie in the first place?
I digress,
So, after the first twinge of envy, then if we are mature adults, we feel congratulations are in order for that person, and also then we start feeling more optimistic about our future, because we start comparing ourselves to them and we Know we have stronger skills, blah, blah blah, and before we know it, we convince ourself that we could have had that job if we would have applied for it, boy is he or she lucky that we didn't know about it. We wish them well and go on our way with more confidence than before.
Also knowing that there is one less "opponent" in the job market. Another benefit of someone finding a job.
Theres a silver lining in almost everything you look at, you can read the obituaries and see at least one person that died that was working, and say, hey, I wonder where they worked, maybe there's a job opening. I know its' morbid, but it's true. So smile, the weekend is here, we can all be just people for Saturday and Sunday. forget the titles, everybody else does.
Thanks for the replies. I am actually quite happy for the person because she is very nice and does well at her job (she is one of my son's teachers).
She has been wonderful for him and I admire the works she does...special ed. teaching.
I have a Masters in Elementary Ed. but due to the lack of jobs in teaching when I got my degree, I sort of drifted out of teaching because the only jobs I could get were in preschools which pay very, very badly.
Eventually I went on to customer service and office work again because they were steady gigs...
However, I am rethinking going back into it if I can get certified in my current state or the one next to me. It's sort of scary because I have not taught in a long time but if I can get a job, even as an aide, it will be a start in the right direction.
I just found out someone got a job after less than 2 interviews...hardly trying (less than a few weeks). I am so frustrated.
I just broke down and cried and had a bit fight w/my husband...
I really can't stand everyone else getting jobs but me. I usually get pretty upset...stupid...I mean I am happy for this person (I wrote her a wonderful reference letter) but still....
How do you guys handle the 'rejection?'
It was arkward for me since me and this girl were laid off the same week and she got a job in 3 weeks and I tried my best to be happy for her but it was tough. Just look at everyday as a NEW DAY and not stress about rejections. I still have all my rejections letters so I can look back at them in the future see how far I have come.
The Silver Lining! Your son benefits more than a few dollars could ever make you happier. Have a great weekend, and remember, next weekend is,
Mother's Day weekend, so, she is giving you a Mother's Day present, she'll be taking care of your son all next year.
(it's just how you look at it)
It was arkward for me since me and this girl were laid off the same week and she got a job in 3 weeks and I tried my best to be happy for her but it was tough. Just look at everyday as a NEW DAY and not stress about rejections. I still have all my rejections letters so I can look back at them in the future see how far I have come.
TV, file those Damn things! Man, that's like looking at pictures of old girlfriends and beating yourself up. I'd say trash em', but you might have to show them to the workforce commission for proof, but looking back at them, hell no. Put them in a box, move on, Say, what didn't I do to get that job, If you did everything possible, then there is nothing you can do. It's not like an equation, math or physics, you are dealing with other human beings, their likes, their dislikes, their quirks, their idiosyncrasies, today they like people wearing blue shirts and red ties, tomorrow the skirt has to be orange. You do your best, and if you are proud of it, you look yourself in the mirror, and can honestly tell,
"The man in the mirror, I didn't get the job, but it's not because I didn't do my best", then you have nothing to be ashamed of, and nothing to change, just keep on trying.
TV, file those Damn things! Man, that's like looking at pictures of old girlfriends and beating yourself up. I'd say trash em', but you might have to show them to the workforce commission for proof, but looking back at them, hell no. Put them in a box, move on, Say, what didn't I do to get that job, If you did everything possible, then there is nothing you can do. It's not like an equation, math or physics, you are dealing with other human beings, their likes, their dislikes, their quirks, their idiosyncrasies, today they like people wearing blue shirts and red ties, tomorrow the skirt has to be orange. You do your best, and if you are proud of it, you look yourself in the mirror, and can honestly tell,
"The man in the mirror, I didn't get the job, but it's not because I didn't do my best", then you have nothing to be ashamed of, and nothing to change, just keep on trying.
I don't have them sitting out, they are put away in a box so I can just look at them again in the future along with the layoff letter.
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