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Figured I'd chime in. Black gay guy here so my perspective is a touch different but men are men. I like to date outside my race too. I would say that I've had ths most success not at white only spots or black only spots but places that were more mixed, particular in DC.
Yes, DC is pretty darn segregated but not totally. Find places that have a healthy mixing to hang out at. Also going online may be spot as well. Plenty of guys that may have been a little gun shy in a public space (not knowing whether or not I'd be interested) were all about it online.
I understand you want the man to approach but because you are going after men that are outside the norm, you're gonna have to put yourself out there. You don't have to buy a guy a drink but perhaps just be the first to strike up a conversation or just give a cute boy the "eye".
Honestly DC is a great place to meet different men from different backgrounds. So you're in the perfect spot. Just keep putting yourself out there and don't forget to smile.
Yeah, definitely smile and show obvious interest towards the person. As a man, I can tell you it makes it a whole lot easier to know when a woman is interested. Not that I'm in the market for those things, but that's another issue. :-)
BTW, take it easy with the online thing. Once, there was this 15-year-old English girl who started chatting it up with me because we had common music interests. But then she got a cam and started to undress herself. I was like, whooooaaa little girl, I'm not looking to get onto dateline NBC tonight.
Man, that was a close call. Whew!
Last edited by BigCityDreamer; 12-31-2010 at 10:15 AM..
Yeah, definitely smile and show obvious interest towards the person. As a man, I can tell you it makes it a whole lot easier to know when a woman is interested. Not that I'm in the market for those things, but that's another issue. :-)
BTW, take it easy with the online thing. Once, there was this 15-year-old English girl who started chatting it up with me because we had common music interests. But then she got a cam and started to undress herself. I was like, whooooaaa little girl, I'm not looking to get onto dateline NBC tonight.
Man, that was a close call. Whew!
Yeah.. I'm not a big fan of online dating either. You never know what you're getting because people lie and often post outdated pictures or pictures that make them look better than they really look. Its like a resume for dating. Things are exaggrated or "tailored".
Its a last resort for me. I'll do just about anything else before online dating.. including approaching random women when I see them haha.
I am a black woman who is interested in and open to dating outside my race in the DC area. However, I am never approached by men that aren't black. How can I come off as a little more approachable to non-black men?
All of my boyfriends have been black, but I have yet to meet a black man in this area worth my time and I am expanding my options. I do not need a lecture about that, fyi. I also do not spend all of my time in places or participate in activities that only cater to black people.
If you'll read this thread again, you can send me a PM if you'd like. IR is where its at
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